Do you belong where you are?

Sabra · October 16th, 2003, 07:32 PM

Just wondering if you feel at home where you live.....would you be happier somewhere else or is this home?

Sabra · October 16th, 2003, 07:35 PM

I'm asking these questions because recently I moved back to where I grew up and I have to say I do not belong here. My politics are different ( I'm a liberal, where republicans/conservatives abound) my sense of humor is different......but then again maybe it's just me ROFL When I can, I'm going back to the west coast, somewhere out there, where I feel I belong. I'm not picky, just going to the other coast. Probably will travel to southern california, oregon and washington. I'll stay here and there in Colorado and Arizona. It's just me I guess

I'm sensing with me, it's a place where I belong, an area, with water, sense of self and family. When my Dad goes, there won't be anything here where I am to hold me and it's a relief

I'm just thinking part of anyone's sense of self and happiness is where they are. Anyone have a comment?

Savannah · March 16th, 2004, 12:53 AM

interesting topic...
i don't feel that i really belong anywhere, i came from europe to australia and moved in my lifetime so far at least 26 times. i don't really have that structure, i feel that i am guided to go where ever i need to be at the time. strange concept to most people, as so many have the need to be rooted down somewhere, to belong.
my last move to this little town in the country is my first attempt to lay down roots again, i am here on my own but want to make it home for some reason.

Angel_Wolf · March 24th, 2004, 04:56 PM

(((((((((Sabra)))))))))
(((((Savannah)))))))))
I too traveled extensively thru out my life since my Dad was military. Now that is a good thing yet I know what you mean about belonging where you are at. I live in a town where most of the people are white and some are ignorant sad to say. Then again you'll find that anywhere. I have been able to adjust in most places I land or live. Yet I know I dont belong anywhere except where my heart is. Thus with my family and hubby. Sometimes I dont have that with them so I take a vacation and rejuvenate. Yet for me its where my heart lies. I am now exploring places in this state and have found a few spots that I feel totally comfortable with. That is only my two cents worth.
Have a great day!

brede · March 25th, 2004, 01:02 PM

I just lost my post! I hate it when that happens and with a mind like a sieve, I don't remember what I said.

Of course it was wise and profound, fraught with meaning.

I agree with the 'home is where the heart is' adage. So, as long as my husband is at my side, anywhere can be home. I have also experienced life as a single, living alone. Sometimes all you need to feel at home is a space that is yours. A place to be yourself, relax, rejuvenate, watch tv, listen to music, etc. is a sanctuary from the world.

Of course, I prefer to be married and living with Gregrr, but if the worst happens, I know that I can create a home of my own.

loribunny · May 16th, 2004, 01:34 AM

I adore Oregon,I traveled extensively to get here.I DO BELONG!!

brede · May 19th, 2004, 12:09 PM

I really liked Newfoundland! A place where people always stop if you are crossing the street, neighbors look after neighbors, a weekend entertainment is to build a huge fire with all your neighbors, relatives, friends and kids there. And all the adults watch out for all the kids. It is safe to leave your house and care unlocked. Things I had the freedom to do when I was a kid, but could never let my son do.

Now if only Gregor could get a job there. (He works for the largest international management company, so it may be possible!)

June 27th, 2004, 11:05 PM

There has never been a time when I felt loved or a place where I felt I belonged. I have been emotionally inert for ten years. My therapist tries to make me cry but no one ever has. She made me start keeping a journal when I was twelve because I would not speak. She cries while reading it. I feel nothing, only a mindfulness that I make her unhappy. She is my only friend.

crazymomma · July 1st, 2004, 12:04 PM

I guess I've been lucky. Most of the time I feel as if I'm where I belong. Except now. I feel as if I cry all the time. I don't know if it's my change or empty nest? My daughter mover to FL over a year ago with her husband and kids. Now my son has left with his girlfriend for PA. I've just moved in with my boyfriend and I am not sure it was a good idea. But I can't move back to the place I was living at. Now that I live with him it seems the only time I like him is while he or I am at work. It's kind of a love hate thing. I almost feel like just saying the hack with it and moving south. Any advice?

Addie · July 1st, 2004, 08:43 PM

Your children are grown and on their own. Now you can do whatever it is that makes YOU happy. If you want to move south, go for it! It doesn't sound like you're worried that you might be leaving the love of your life. If you aren't happy with him then why stick it out? Being on your own can be wonderful! Why spend time with someone who won't "allow" you to hookup your webTV?

My advice? Think about what would make you happy and do it. It's your time! Life is too short as it is, now is your time to enjoy it!

Cod · July 1st, 2004, 08:47 PM

ditto!

brede · July 4th, 2004, 06:10 PM

Double ditto. You have entered a period in life where you have more choices and the freedom to follow your dreams than ever before.

It's not being selfish, it is allowing you to be the true person you are!

PoohsBigSister · July 4th, 2004, 10:13 PM

(((((((((((((((crazymomma)))))))))))))))))))))))))

As someone who has recently entered into a similar situation (although I like him more often than not) if you don't feel happy - change it.

You deserve so much more than mediocre!!!!!

brede · July 6th, 2004, 08:37 AM

I know it would be hard, but do what is best for you! And if you head south, let me know. I have lived in FL for 42 years!

starting_new · June 18th, 2008, 12:50 AM

Hey. I'm really struggling with this right now myself. I moved to PA from WA 5 months ago and don't feel like I belong here at all! I live in a very small town and there is nothing to do and no where to meet people. I think I'm going to moved again as soon as I have enough money. Idk though, I need something till then... I'm just so bored and getting depressed because of it.

October 16th, 2003, 07:32 PM	#1
Sabra Registered User Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 208	Do you belong where you are? Just wondering if you feel at home where you live.....would you be happier somewhere else or is this home?

March 16th, 2004, 12:53 AM	#3
Savannah Student of the Earth Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Western Australia Posts: 48	interesting topic... i don't feel that i really belong anywhere, i came from europe to australia and moved in my lifetime so far at least 26 times. i don't really have that structure, i feel that i am guided to go where ever i need to be at the time. strange concept to most people, as so many have the need to be rooted down somewhere, to belong. my last move to this little town in the country is my first attempt to lay down roots again, i am here on my own but want to make it home for some reason. __________________ "there are no impossible dreams, just our limited perception of what is possible..."

March 24th, 2004, 04:56 PM	#4
Angel_Wolf Registered User Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: USA Posts: 333	Well......... (((((((((Sabra))))))))) (((((Savannah))))))))) I too traveled extensively thru out my life since my Dad was military. Now that is a good thing yet I know what you mean about belonging where you are at. I live in a town where most of the people are white and some are ignorant sad to say. Then again you'll find that anywhere. I have been able to adjust in most places I land or live. Yet I know I dont belong anywhere except where my heart is. Thus with my family and hubby. Sometimes I dont have that with them so I take a vacation and rejuvenate. Yet for me its where my heart lies. I am now exploring places in this state and have found a few spots that I feel totally comfortable with. That is only my two cents worth. Have a great day! __________________ ~~ May you walk in the Shadow of the Creator!~~

March 25th, 2004, 01:02 PM	#5
brede my new motorcycle Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Florida Posts: 574	I just lost my post! I hate it when that happens and with a mind like a sieve, I don't remember what I said. Of course it was wise and profound, fraught with meaning. I agree with the 'home is where the heart is' adage. So, as long as my husband is at my side, anywhere can be home. I have also experienced life as a single, living alone. Sometimes all you need to feel at home is a space that is yours. A place to be yourself, relax, rejuvenate, watch tv, listen to music, etc. is a sanctuary from the world. Of course, I prefer to be married and living with Gregrr, but if the worst happens, I know that I can create a home of my own. __________________ I wanted to be a pirate, but I couldn't grow a beard and rum makes me giggle.

May 16th, 2004, 01:34 AM	#6
loribunny Registered User Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Albany,Oregon Posts: 6	do i belong here? I adore Oregon,I traveled extensively to get here.I DO BELONG!!

October 16th, 2003, 07:35 PM	#2
Sabra Registered User Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 208	I'm asking these questions because recently I moved back to where I grew up and I have to say I do not belong here. My politics are different ( I'm a liberal, where republicans/conservatives abound) my sense of humor is different......but then again maybe it's just me ROFL When I can, I'm going back to the west coast, somewhere out there, where I feel I belong. I'm not picky, just going to the other coast. Probably will travel to southern california, oregon and washington. I'll stay here and there in Colorado and Arizona. It's just me I guess I'm sensing with me, it's a place where I belong, an area, with water, sense of self and family. When my Dad goes, there won't be anything here where I am to hold me and it's a relief I'm just thinking part of anyone's sense of self and happiness is where they are. Anyone have a comment?

May 19th, 2004, 12:09 PM	#7
brede my new motorcycle Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Florida Posts: 574	I really liked Newfoundland! A place where people always stop if you are crossing the street, neighbors look after neighbors, a weekend entertainment is to build a huge fire with all your neighbors, relatives, friends and kids there. And all the adults watch out for all the kids. It is safe to leave your house and care unlocked. Things I had the freedom to do when I was a kid, but could never let my son do. Now if only Gregor could get a job there. (He works for the largest international management company, so it may be possible!) __________________ I wanted to be a pirate, but I couldn't grow a beard and rum makes me giggle.

June 27th, 2004, 11:05 PM	#8
Jell Guest Posts: n/a	There has never been a time when I felt loved or a place where I felt I belonged. I have been emotionally inert for ten years. My therapist tries to make me cry but no one ever has. She made me start keeping a journal when I was twelve because I would not speak. She cries while reading it. I feel nothing, only a mindfulness that I make her unhappy. She is my only friend.

July 1st, 2004, 12:04 PM	#9
crazymomma awesome cookie lady Join Date: May 2003 Location: Leechburgh, PA Posts: 1,993	I guess I've been lucky. Most of the time I feel as if I'm where I belong. Except now. I feel as if I cry all the time. I don't know if it's my change or empty nest? My daughter mover to FL over a year ago with her husband and kids. Now my son has left with his girlfriend for PA. I've just moved in with my boyfriend and I am not sure it was a good idea. But I can't move back to the place I was living at. Now that I live with him it seems the only time I like him is while he or I am at work. It's kind of a love hate thing. I almost feel like just saying the hack with it and moving south. Any advice? __________________ It feels like home to me. Bonnie Rhatt

July 1st, 2004, 08:43 PM	#10
Addie Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 436	Your children are grown and on their own. Now you can do whatever it is that makes YOU happy. If you want to move south, go for it! It doesn't sound like you're worried that you might be leaving the love of your life. If you aren't happy with him then why stick it out? Being on your own can be wonderful! Why spend time with someone who won't "allow" you to hookup your webTV? My advice? Think about what would make you happy and do it. It's your time! Life is too short as it is, now is your time to enjoy it!

July 1st, 2004, 08:47 PM	#11
Cod Hooked on The OC! Join Date: Mar 2001 Posts: 1,252	ditto!

July 4th, 2004, 06:10 PM	#12
brede my new motorcycle Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Florida Posts: 574	Double ditto. You have entered a period in life where you have more choices and the freedom to follow your dreams than ever before. It's not being selfish, it is allowing you to be the true person you are! __________________ I wanted to be a pirate, but I couldn't grow a beard and rum makes me giggle.

July 4th, 2004, 10:13 PM	#13
PoohsBigSister Long Live WOW!! Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: CO Posts: 1,791	(((((((((((((((crazymomma))))))))))))))))))))))))) As someone who has recently entered into a similar situation (although I like him more often than not) if you don't feel happy - change it. You deserve so much more than mediocre!!!!! __________________ "Life is a flower of which love is the honey." Victor Hugo

July 6th, 2004, 08:37 AM	#14
brede my new motorcycle Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Florida Posts: 574	I know it would be hard, but do what is best for you! And if you head south, let me know. I have lived in FL for 42 years! __________________ I wanted to be a pirate, but I couldn't grow a beard and rum makes me giggle.

June 18th, 2008, 12:50 AM	#15
starting_new Registered User Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 2	Hey. I'm really struggling with this right now myself. I moved to PA from WA 5 months ago and don't feel like I belong here at all! I live in a very small town and there is nothing to do and no where to meet people. I think I'm going to moved again as soon as I have enough money. Idk though, I need something till then... I'm just so bored and getting depressed because of it.