Bisexuality

QuietWOW · January 14th, 2001, 07:03 PM

Do you identify as bisexual? Or maybe you're confused about sexuality? Or maybe you just want to discuss the issues. Please use this space

January 26th, 2003, 12:48 AM

I noticed that there was no comment in this section. Well for all you Bi-sexual women out there come out, come out where ever you are. I had several men tell me that there are more curious women, bi-sexual women then most people want to admit. Well, we also live in a society that promotes it. You know, 2 women are more tantalizing to look at then 2 men, so they say. I want to hear from those who have thought of it, tried it or just want to share stories about it.

sunflower · January 29th, 2003, 11:53 AM

Well ROFL I can't speak for myself but I have friends who have at least been with another woman. They said that they were curious to see the difference between a man and a woman and two women.
I think deep down most women are at least a bit curious.I also have a friend who was engaged to a man but she is now in a loving relationship with another women for about 6 years now.

DancesAlot · October 29th, 2003, 06:31 PM

I'm bi, i am said sam

Curious thing about how society really molds our attitudes... biologically humans are bi.
Let me tell you, I've encountered alot of "hruump" from lesbians when i disclose that... and not in the frame of "slutty."
Rather, its like, "well then you're not one of us then," jeez, thats part of being human i suppose.
But really, even tho i've been invoved in a few special relationships of hetroism, i do prefer women- as a preference.
i just don't like to close off my options to an entire gender just because the deep connection you make with another human being is so rare and precious, you just can't discount an entire gender... just my point of view.

i'd really be curious to know if there are other bi women who feel sort of the same... that if you just had to choose, women would definately be your number one ooowa la la first choice? but as long as one's single, you don't discount the possibility of a guy being a soul mate...

August 5th, 2004, 12:35 AM

I WAS USING MY HUSBAND'S WORK LAP COMPUTER, FOUR DAYS AGO. (HE LEFT ON VACATION AND LEFT ME HIS PSSW.)
HOWEVER, I FOUND OUT THAT HE IS SATISFING HIMSELF LOOKING AT SEX WEBSITES, (WHICH IS NORMAL BECAUSE I WACTH PORNO). WELL, I KEPT SEARCHING ALL THE WEBSITES HE USUALLY BROWSES AND FOR MY SURPRISE I FOUND 2 SHEMALE WEBSITES WHICH HE VISITED. NOW I AM EXTREMELY HURT BECAUSE HE DETEST HOMOSEXUALS AND BISEXUALS BUT THEN HE IS LOOKING AT THESE SITES. why!!!
I'M DESPAIR, BECAUSE I'M NOT SURE ABOUT HIS SEXUALITY AND I DO NOT KNOW HOW TO APPROACH HIM IN REGARDS TO THIS SITUATION. BESIDES THAT, I HAD/HAVE A FEELING THAT HE IS CHEATING THEREFORE, I CHECKED OUR HOME COMPUTER BROKE INTO HIS OUTLOOK MSSGS AND FOUND A MSS OF A GIRL SENDING HIM A PICTURE. I'M LUCKY OR WHAT? PLEASE REPLY

MintyFemme2 · August 5th, 2004, 01:54 PM

Esther, first of all please try not to type in all CAPS it is like yelling on the internet. I think you should talk to your husband about what you found while you was snooping.

brede · August 6th, 2004, 09:43 AM

I agree. I would print out copies of the emails and maybe create a list of sites he has visited and print that as well. To print the list of sites, open your word processer program, go to the site, copy the address into the processer and write the title of the site. Do that for each page that disturbs you.

My husband started visiting porn sites when we first got online. I simply sat down with him at the computer using the history button and flipped through all the sites he had visited. I explained to him that while he saw nothing wrong with them, I felt as if he was actually cheating on me (my ex did constantly) and that I also felt that he found me lacking as a partner. Then I gave him a choice, I reminded him of our wedding vows to be faithful (in body, mind and spirit), and told him it was either the web porn or me, but not both.

When he understood how I felt, that was the end of it. We do occaisionally enjoy porn together, but viewing it on the sly individually simply doesn't cut it.

ricia · November 21st, 2004, 11:21 AM

Hi there - someone directed me here from the lesbian chat section, I was lost.... But I'm so glad to see there is a place for bi women to chat too!

I understand the feeling of not being welcome or fitting in with the lesbian community - although I've been quite frequently immersed in the local community. I'm not convinced that it is the lesbians that aren't welcoming though. I believe it is myself who recognises somewhat differing issues and needs within that community. I have good friends who feel the same way, and they are lesbian couples.

Where I am living, the community is so small and familiar that it feels a little too closed off and can even be quite self-segregating. It is often an uncomfortable arena for new comers - "fresh meat"! So all this to say, two things:

- Perhaps the discomfort is only a signal that as a bi woman, you do have some varying perspectives and expriences and needs from the lesbian women's community.
- Bisexuality isn't often given much thought to in a legitimate manner. I've searched up and down for girls nights, social events, forums etc, and come across very few options. In fact, a very large number of groups, events or listings I've come across are geared toward bi-sexual women with male partners, married mostly. The only social group o'er here that I've come across is very orientated toward heter-couples looking for a third. Bi-women (maybe men too?) aren't "in the mix" and do not appear to be hosting their own groups, outings and events.

I do agree however, that there are some grumblies that frown at the discovery that your bi. I've a lesbian friend that lovelingly refers to me as a lesbian-wanna-be! It drives me nuts. And a heter friend who sugggested I just cannot make up my mind... These are unique issues, and I don't think they are often addressed when women talk about identity or endeavor to share a sense of indentity with others.

- I just realised I was remarking on postings from a long time ago (I'm new to this medium, sorry, didn't see the dates)... So I'm back in editing!

Question: Are you happy that your husband found a girl online or are you feeling terrible? Were you otherwise happily married? It's not clear to me as you said you wanted to approach him about his sexuality and noted that he is homophobic...

Men I know often remark on the fantasy of two women, but have absolutely no desire to be with a man and are even somewhat intimidated by the prospects of the women being more important to each other than he to them. In this case it is more of a fantasy that has been promoted in our culture, than it is a question of mens' sexuality.

brede · December 2nd, 2004, 06:26 PM

Exellent questions! In my case, he was just looking at porn and he has stopped looking at it by himself. I know much more about the computer than he does, so he knows I can track down where he has been.

I do know someone that gets annoyed with bisexual women. It is simple because she is alone in an area where the women outnumber the men, she doesn't "get" bisexuality, so she maintains that bisexual women are reducing her field of desirable men. I've been educating her and she is beginning to understand.

I do agree that a frank discussion on the topic is needed. I've never really fit into any group, so I can emphatize with your feelings on that part.

Hugs to you.

January 29th, 2003, 11:53 AM	#3
sunflower member Join Date: Jan 2003 Location: Ontario Posts: 226	Bisexuality Well ROFL I can't speak for myself but I have friends who have at least been with another woman. They said that they were curious to see the difference between a man and a woman and two women. I think deep down most women are at least a bit curious.I also have a friend who was engaged to a man but she is now in a loving relationship with another women for about 6 years now.

August 5th, 2004, 12:35 AM	#5
ESTHER Guest Posts: n/a	SEXUALITY I WAS USING MY HUSBAND'S WORK LAP COMPUTER, FOUR DAYS AGO. (HE LEFT ON VACATION AND LEFT ME HIS PSSW.) HOWEVER, I FOUND OUT THAT HE IS SATISFING HIMSELF LOOKING AT SEX WEBSITES, (WHICH IS NORMAL BECAUSE I WACTH PORNO). WELL, I KEPT SEARCHING ALL THE WEBSITES HE USUALLY BROWSES AND FOR MY SURPRISE I FOUND 2 SHEMALE WEBSITES WHICH HE VISITED. NOW I AM EXTREMELY HURT BECAUSE HE DETEST HOMOSEXUALS AND BISEXUALS BUT THEN HE IS LOOKING AT THESE SITES. why!!! I'M DESPAIR, BECAUSE I'M NOT SURE ABOUT HIS SEXUALITY AND I DO NOT KNOW HOW TO APPROACH HIM IN REGARDS TO THIS SITUATION. BESIDES THAT, I HAD/HAVE A FEELING THAT HE IS CHEATING THEREFORE, I CHECKED OUR HOME COMPUTER BROKE INTO HIS OUTLOOK MSSGS AND FOUND A MSS OF A GIRL SENDING HIM A PICTURE. I'M LUCKY OR WHAT? PLEASE REPLY

August 5th, 2004, 01:54 PM	#6
MintyFemme2 Registered User Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: CA Posts: 571	Esther, first of all please try not to type in all CAPS it is like yelling on the internet. I think you should talk to your husband about what you found while you was snooping. __________________ " Life is what you make of it"

August 6th, 2004, 09:43 AM	#7
brede my new motorcycle Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Florida Posts: 574	I agree. I would print out copies of the emails and maybe create a list of sites he has visited and print that as well. To print the list of sites, open your word processer program, go to the site, copy the address into the processer and write the title of the site. Do that for each page that disturbs you. My husband started visiting porn sites when we first got online. I simply sat down with him at the computer using the history button and flipped through all the sites he had visited. I explained to him that while he saw nothing wrong with them, I felt as if he was actually cheating on me (my ex did constantly) and that I also felt that he found me lacking as a partner. Then I gave him a choice, I reminded him of our wedding vows to be faithful (in body, mind and spirit), and told him it was either the web porn or me, but not both. When he understood how I felt, that was the end of it. We do occaisionally enjoy porn together, but viewing it on the sly individually simply doesn't cut it. __________________ I wanted to be a pirate, but I couldn't grow a beard and rum makes me giggle.

November 21st, 2004, 11:21 AM	#8
ricia Registered User Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 2	newbie to the forums Hi there - someone directed me here from the lesbian chat section, I was lost.... But I'm so glad to see there is a place for bi women to chat too! I understand the feeling of not being welcome or fitting in with the lesbian community - although I've been quite frequently immersed in the local community. I'm not convinced that it is the lesbians that aren't welcoming though. I believe it is myself who recognises somewhat differing issues and needs within that community. I have good friends who feel the same way, and they are lesbian couples. Where I am living, the community is so small and familiar that it feels a little too closed off and can even be quite self-segregating. It is often an uncomfortable arena for new comers - "fresh meat"! So all this to say, two things: - Perhaps the discomfort is only a signal that as a bi woman, you do have some varying perspectives and expriences and needs from the lesbian women's community. - Bisexuality isn't often given much thought to in a legitimate manner. I've searched up and down for girls nights, social events, forums etc, and come across very few options. In fact, a very large number of groups, events or listings I've come across are geared toward bi-sexual women with male partners, married mostly. The only social group o'er here that I've come across is very orientated toward heter-couples looking for a third. Bi-women (maybe men too?) aren't "in the mix" and do not appear to be hosting their own groups, outings and events. I do agree however, that there are some grumblies that frown at the discovery that your bi. I've a lesbian friend that lovelingly refers to me as a lesbian-wanna-be! It drives me nuts. And a heter friend who sugggested I just cannot make up my mind... These are unique issues, and I don't think they are often addressed when women talk about identity or endeavor to share a sense of indentity with others. - I just realised I was remarking on postings from a long time ago (I'm new to this medium, sorry, didn't see the dates)... So I'm back in editing! Question: Are you happy that your husband found a girl online or are you feeling terrible? Were you otherwise happily married? It's not clear to me as you said you wanted to approach him about his sexuality and noted that he is homophobic... Men I know often remark on the fantasy of two women, but have absolutely no desire to be with a man and are even somewhat intimidated by the prospects of the women being more important to each other than he to them. In this case it is more of a fantasy that has been promoted in our culture, than it is a question of mens' sexuality.

January 14th, 2001, 07:03 PM	#1
QuietWOW WOW Host Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: UK Posts: 70	Do you identify as bisexual? Or maybe you're confused about sexuality? Or maybe you just want to discuss the issues. Please use this space

January 26th, 2003, 12:48 AM	#2
sharon1968 Guest Posts: n/a	I noticed that there was no comment in this section. Well for all you Bi-sexual women out there come out, come out where ever you are. I had several men tell me that there are more curious women, bi-sexual women then most people want to admit. Well, we also live in a society that promotes it. You know, 2 women are more tantalizing to look at then 2 men, so they say. I want to hear from those who have thought of it, tried it or just want to share stories about it.

October 29th, 2003, 06:31 PM	#4
DancesAlot Registered User Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: mountains Posts: 2	I'm bi, i am said sam Curious thing about how society really molds our attitudes... biologically humans are bi. Let me tell you, I've encountered alot of "hruump" from lesbians when i disclose that... and not in the frame of "slutty." Rather, its like, "well then you're not one of us then," jeez, thats part of being human i suppose. But really, even tho i've been invoved in a few special relationships of hetroism, i do prefer women- as a preference. i just don't like to close off my options to an entire gender just because the deep connection you make with another human being is so rare and precious, you just can't discount an entire gender... just my point of view. i'd really be curious to know if there are other bi women who feel sort of the same... that if you just had to choose, women would definately be your number one ooowa la la first choice? but as long as one's single, you don't discount the possibility of a guy being a soul mate...

December 2nd, 2004, 06:26 PM	#9
brede my new motorcycle Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Florida Posts: 574	Exellent questions! In my case, he was just looking at porn and he has stopped looking at it by himself. I know much more about the computer than he does, so he knows I can track down where he has been. I do know someone that gets annoyed with bisexual women. It is simple because she is alone in an area where the women outnumber the men, she doesn't "get" bisexuality, so she maintains that bisexual women are reducing her field of desirable men. I've been educating her and she is beginning to understand. I do agree that a frank discussion on the topic is needed. I've never really fit into any group, so I can emphatize with your feelings on that part. Hugs to you. __________________ I wanted to be a pirate, but I couldn't grow a beard and rum makes me giggle.