Kinda embarrassed

nikkigate6 · November 18th, 2010, 12:24 AM

Hi all.I'm new here...Nikki is my name 18/f from the states...i have a situation im hoping you can help me out with. I'm the only girl in my house as my mom died last year.As such,i don't have anyone around to talk bout girl stuff.I'm fast approaching a moment where i could use her wisdom, but instead i turn to the help of strangers...

Next week i am going to the gynecologist for the first time and im freaking out. I dont have anything wrong with me.Im a virgin. The only reason i am going is because my aunt made the appt for me after convincing my dad that i was "of age" to start going...

any tips/tricks/stories to ease the nerves would be appreciated...

Wolf_angel · November 18th, 2010, 02:57 PM

Well Nikki talk to you Doctor whoever that may be. Let them know you are scared and talk to you before touching you. To keep on talking to you during the exam. This way it will help ease your fears. Hopefully you will get a good doctor who will totally understand. Getting scared of something new is understandable, yet as a woman you will go thru this countless of times especially when you start having babies. The exam can be uncomfortable a bit. But nothing for you to freak out. I am sure once you are done you will laugh at it. Wish you the best. Good Luck! Hugs

nikkigate6 · November 19th, 2010, 09:40 AM

Thanks Wolf_Angel...i have an older female friend who went who said just think puppies the whole time...i really hope i get a female doctor too as it would def make me feel more comfortable...do they normally record your weight at these appts? need to know if i gotta start a crash diet this weekend

Wolf_angel · November 23rd, 2010, 08:21 PM

Yes they record your weight but no crash diets ok? Tis not good nor healthy. I did lose sixty pounds on my own so if you want to lose weight but keep it off let me know I would be glad to help you. Hugs

iampat · January 27th, 2011, 12:09 PM

I hope your appointment went well. I know my first time was scary as well. Most doctors who work in that field are sensitive to the fact that everyone's first time can be very intriguing and filled with fear. If this one didn't go as smoothly as you would have liked, you can always try working with another doctor at the same office or just go to another place altogether. It's just important to go get checked out every year, no matter which doctor you are seeing.

nikkigate6 · February 1st, 2011, 12:42 AM

thanks ppat...it was a little awkward but ive gotten used to it...ive had to go a couple more times for some follow up stuff and i really like who i (or i should say my aunt) found for me

Jennifer23 · February 3rd, 2011, 10:40 PM

Nik, you'll get used to it! And since you'll be going into the Navy, you'll really have to get used to it. You'll be OK. What I try to think about a lot is mind over matter. My only problem is . . . . I don't have a mind! Take care.

nikkigate6 · February 5th, 2011, 10:38 PM

Yeah Jen one of my navy friends said she gets a pap every three months...i think thats specific to her job though shes higher risk bc of where shes stationed...hope its not like that

Wolf_angel · February 6th, 2011, 12:21 AM

Well nikkigate you got to keep in touch with us especially me if you are going Navy! My oldest son is still in and his wife has served already! Hugs

crazymomma · February 6th, 2011, 12:22 AM

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November 18th, 2010, 12:24 AM	#1
nikkigate6 Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Richmond,VA Posts: 19	Kinda embarrassed Hi all.I'm new here...Nikki is my name 18/f from the states...i have a situation im hoping you can help me out with. I'm the only girl in my house as my mom died last year.As such,i don't have anyone around to talk bout girl stuff.I'm fast approaching a moment where i could use her wisdom, but instead i turn to the help of strangers... Next week i am going to the gynecologist for the first time and im freaking out. I dont have anything wrong with me.Im a virgin. The only reason i am going is because my aunt made the appt for me after convincing my dad that i was "of age" to start going... any tips/tricks/stories to ease the nerves would be appreciated...

November 18th, 2010, 02:57 PM	#2
Wolf_angel A survivor of chaos Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Where my heart is Posts: 3,147	Well Nikki talk to you Doctor whoever that may be. Let them know you are scared and talk to you before touching you. To keep on talking to you during the exam. This way it will help ease your fears. Hopefully you will get a good doctor who will totally understand. Getting scared of something new is understandable, yet as a woman you will go thru this countless of times especially when you start having babies. The exam can be uncomfortable a bit. But nothing for you to freak out. I am sure once you are done you will laugh at it. Wish you the best. Good Luck! Hugs __________________ May you walk in the shadow of the Great Spirit~To help others is a special gift we can either give or take~The more you give the more you receive~

November 23rd, 2010, 08:21 PM	#4
Wolf_angel A survivor of chaos Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Where my heart is Posts: 3,147	Yes they record your weight but no crash diets ok? Tis not good nor healthy. I did lose sixty pounds on my own so if you want to lose weight but keep it off let me know I would be glad to help you. Hugs __________________ May you walk in the shadow of the Great Spirit~To help others is a special gift we can either give or take~The more you give the more you receive~

January 27th, 2011, 12:09 PM	#5
iampat Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 21	I hope your appointment went well. I know my first time was scary as well. Most doctors who work in that field are sensitive to the fact that everyone's first time can be very intriguing and filled with fear. If this one didn't go as smoothly as you would have liked, you can always try working with another doctor at the same office or just go to another place altogether. It's just important to go get checked out every year, no matter which doctor you are seeing. Last edited by Sysop; February 3rd, 2011 at 12:44 PM. Reason: commercial link removed

February 6th, 2011, 12:21 AM	#9
Wolf_angel A survivor of chaos Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Where my heart is Posts: 3,147	Well nikkigate you got to keep in touch with us especially me if you are going Navy! My oldest son is still in and his wife has served already! Hugs __________________ May you walk in the shadow of the Great Spirit~To help others is a special gift we can either give or take~The more you give the more you receive~

November 19th, 2010, 09:40 AM	#3
nikkigate6 Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Richmond,VA Posts: 19	Thanks Wolf_Angel...i have an older female friend who went who said just think puppies the whole time...i really hope i get a female doctor too as it would def make me feel more comfortable...do they normally record your weight at these appts? need to know if i gotta start a crash diet this weekend

February 1st, 2011, 12:42 AM	#6
nikkigate6 Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Richmond,VA Posts: 19	thanks ppat...it was a little awkward but ive gotten used to it...ive had to go a couple more times for some follow up stuff and i really like who i (or i should say my aunt) found for me

February 3rd, 2011, 10:40 PM	#7
Jennifer23 Jennifer23 Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 3,187	Nik, you'll get used to it! And since you'll be going into the Navy, you'll really have to get used to it. You'll be OK. What I try to think about a lot is mind over matter. My only problem is . . . . I don't have a mind! Take care.

February 5th, 2011, 10:38 PM	#8
nikkigate6 Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Richmond,VA Posts: 19	Yeah Jen one of my navy friends said she gets a pap every three months...i think thats specific to her job though shes higher risk bc of where shes stationed...hope its not like that

February 6th, 2011, 12:22 AM	#10
crazymomma awesome cookie lady Join Date: May 2003 Location: Leechburgh, PA Posts: 1,993	((((((((Wolfie!!!!!)))))))) __________________ It feels like home to me. Bonnie Rhatt