I have feelings for someone other than my husband.

Lara · June 25th, 2012, 04:26 PM

My husband and I have been having problems for about 3 years, for various reasons. I have known him for 15 years, and married 12 years, we have a five year old daughter. In the last 3 years, I noticed that I started to fantasize about someone that I really liked briefly, but then I forgot about him. I thought I was crushing because my relationship with my husband was dry. I thought it was to pass. Last year, when I was on a training program abroad, I met a very interesting person. Right off the bat, It was not like from the first sight, but I quickly decided, upon finishing the training, that in my fantasies, it would be someone I would have an affair with. This is just my private thinking. I am actually very religious and an affair would I think nearly kill me. lol. I just like to let go of my feeling inside my head to see where they land, and that is where they landed. Long story short, I happened to work with this guy longdistance over some project, we got to email each other over work everyday for a couple of months. Now I am going to vacation in the same area he lives where I know some friends, and I am bound to see him. I am very nervous. I think "think" he likes me, he has been slightly flirtatious the first time we met. He asked me if women in my country were allowed to show cleavage. You get the hint, I guess. It's so funny. Anyways. We met again in my home country for work, and he made me laugh so hard my cheek bones hurt. He has mesmerizing colored eyes. I noticed he can be a bit short tempered at times, which is something I don't like, but then again I related to him very well. I cannot claim he is perfect. He is not. But he has ... so many qualities lacking in my husband, least of which being light spirited and his excellent ability to communicate with a woman, although still hard for him like any other man, but at least he TRIES, my husband doesn't. I am feeling very very disconnected from my husband now, and I talked to him yesterday about the disconnect. He is just pathetically lazy romantically speaking, and prefers to spend all his time on the computer doing intellectual stuff.

Synful_Poet · June 30th, 2012, 10:33 AM

Hi, Lara...

Nothing wrong with fantasizing...everyone does it.

But if the thought of an affair is upsetting to you...well just be careful on your vacation. If he likes you as you suspect...unexpected things happen...heat of the moment and all that.

And your husband...well alot of men are like that...

And unfortunately, you either learn to live with it or move on.

Just my thoughts...have a great vacation!

Jennifer23 · June 30th, 2012, 05:07 PM

Hi Lara, and I agree with Syn. Have a wonderful vacation, but just remember that men are men and we are us. So, be careful.

smith29 · July 6th, 2012, 01:40 AM

Yeah Exactly!!! I am agree with you. Yes Lara, you should be careful.

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Jennifer23 · July 28th, 2012, 07:05 PM

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June 25th, 2012, 04:26 PM	#1
Lara Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 2	I have feelings for someone other than my husband. My husband and I have been having problems for about 3 years, for various reasons. I have known him for 15 years, and married 12 years, we have a five year old daughter. In the last 3 years, I noticed that I started to fantasize about someone that I really liked briefly, but then I forgot about him. I thought I was crushing because my relationship with my husband was dry. I thought it was to pass. Last year, when I was on a training program abroad, I met a very interesting person. Right off the bat, It was not like from the first sight, but I quickly decided, upon finishing the training, that in my fantasies, it would be someone I would have an affair with. This is just my private thinking. I am actually very religious and an affair would I think nearly kill me. lol. I just like to let go of my feeling inside my head to see where they land, and that is where they landed. Long story short, I happened to work with this guy longdistance over some project, we got to email each other over work everyday for a couple of months. Now I am going to vacation in the same area he lives where I know some friends, and I am bound to see him. I am very nervous. I think "think" he likes me, he has been slightly flirtatious the first time we met. He asked me if women in my country were allowed to show cleavage. You get the hint, I guess. It's so funny. Anyways. We met again in my home country for work, and he made me laugh so hard my cheek bones hurt. He has mesmerizing colored eyes. I noticed he can be a bit short tempered at times, which is something I don't like, but then again I related to him very well. I cannot claim he is perfect. He is not. But he has ... so many qualities lacking in my husband, least of which being light spirited and his excellent ability to communicate with a woman, although still hard for him like any other man, but at least he TRIES, my husband doesn't. I am feeling very very disconnected from my husband now, and I talked to him yesterday about the disconnect. He is just pathetically lazy romantically speaking, and prefers to spend all his time on the computer doing intellectual stuff.

June 30th, 2012, 10:33 AM	#2
Synful_Poet Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: IA Posts: 540	Hi, Lara... Nothing wrong with fantasizing...everyone does it. But if the thought of an affair is upsetting to you...well just be careful on your vacation. If he likes you as you suspect...unexpected things happen...heat of the moment and all that. And your husband...well alot of men are like that... And unfortunately, you either learn to live with it or move on. Just my thoughts...have a great vacation! __________________ "Once made equal to man, woman becomes his superior" - Socrates

July 6th, 2012, 01:40 AM	#4
smith29 Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Posts: 2	Yeah Exactly!!! I am agree with you. Yes Lara, you should be careful. Last edited by smith29; July 6th, 2012 at 01:41 AM. Reason: spelling mistake

June 30th, 2012, 05:07 PM	#3
Jennifer23 Jennifer23 Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 3,187	Hi Lara, and I agree with Syn. Have a wonderful vacation, but just remember that men are men and we are us. So, be careful.

July 28th, 2012, 06:00 PM	#5
Johnrocks13kid Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 2	Hey lara im fuckin horny 13 year old babe

July 28th, 2012, 06:02 PM	#6
Johnrocks13kid Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 2	hey im horny jeni

July 28th, 2012, 07:05 PM	#7
Jennifer23 Jennifer23 Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 3,187	Mmmmmm . . . . . . maybe you should just find a porn site that works for you, John.

August 14th, 2012, 10:36 AM	#8
courtneyharris788 Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Posts: 8	For a marriage relationship to flourish, there must be intimacy. kechara love chakras and kechara relationship chakras are the solution to your problem..