Do you have any reaction to being referred to as a "female" rather than a "woman" - Page 2

Anne_VS · August 18th, 2003, 11:09 PM

I consider myself a LADY, I act like one, and expected to be treated like one. And that includes being called a lady. I can accept being called a woman. But a female - that sounds like I'm being confused with livestock.

Anne

Cod · August 19th, 2003, 11:15 AM

You know what....you can refer to me as female or woman but I really cringe at "lady".

Maybe it's being surrounded mostly by males/men that being called a lady makes me feel *unequal*. I've always hated to be excluded from conversations or language because of my gender.

Maybe it's because I'm not all that ladylike in my thoughts and actions.

Just call me "Cod"!

Cinderellen · August 19th, 2003, 11:55 AM

I like being called a lady sometimes, depending on the situation, of course the same holds true for female. I think with both of these words, the attitudes of the speaker are what the real issue is. The pamphlet that started this conversation I think had a real issue. Calling men "men" and women "females" to me says that the writer values men more than women. I suppose because 'men' sounds more personal than 'females' which seems more clinical.

With the term lady, it depends again on what the speaker means. If someone calls me a lady because of behavior that I've exhibited I take that as a compliment. If someone calls me lady because of behavior that they are about to engage in, then they are excluding me based on my sex, and that's not good.

I think that the only words that I do not like to be called are 'girl' and 'bitch'. Sometimes I am one, lol, but I don't like to be called that.

crazymomma · February 11th, 2004, 10:22 AM

I agree with Cinderellen. This the first time I've been in this folder but here is my input. I have been refered to as ladylike. I don't mind this. Cause I can swear and dress as I please but still be a lady. Sometimes the tem is used in a hurtful way. As for the term bitch. Well, dogs of the female gender are the only thing that sould have that term used with. On forms were you are asked if you are male or female I have no problem. In all depends on the content. As long as its male/female or man/ women I don't mind. as long as it's in taste and not meant to demoralize anyone. any sexual title can be demoralizing if phased wrong. Anyway, as I was going to say, the sterotype "lady" is out dated. I can wear jeans and a ratty tshirt and still be a lady. Just as a person who wears a dress everyday can look like a lady but not be one. Okay sorry, I'm getting ff subject. I'll stop now.

Cod · February 11th, 2004, 12:37 PM

I'm not crazy about "lady". It's just a personal thing. "Girl" and "lady" make me feel set apart, whereas "female" or "woman" are both okay with me. I guess any term can be used in a condescending way, and in that case, don't even talk to me.

MintyFemme2 · February 11th, 2004, 01:35 PM

/me looks at Cod and says " hey lady" LOL. I think I understand what you are saying Cod. I don't mind being called "Lady" but alot of the times it is very impersonal. I think my biggest gripe is when the clerk hands me my receipt back and says " Thank you Mrs...." I am not married but because of my first name everyone assumes I am using my "husband's" name LOL. I also hate being called Ma'am when by young adults do it to be sassy.

LiamFan! · February 11th, 2004, 05:37 PM

hey <font size=5>LADY!</font>

Cod · February 11th, 2004, 09:47 PM

ROFL....okay JerryFan!

LiamFan! · February 11th, 2004, 11:35 PM

Cod · February 12th, 2004, 10:04 AM

"Hey Dad, don't call me a lady!"

LiamFan! · February 12th, 2004, 10:28 AM

Ha! That cracked me up.

Thanks for weighing in on the issue, Seth!

Cod · February 12th, 2004, 10:37 AM

No problem, Ryan.

(hey, do you think we're off topic?)

Addie · February 12th, 2004, 12:22 PM

Off topic or not, Ryan, man, we have got to talk about this Marissa thing. "I'm sorry Ryan" is so not working for me this time. Seth, dude, I know you promised to have his back, but you gotta talk to him man.

Cod · February 12th, 2004, 01:01 PM

ROFL somehow I *knew* you'd join this thread.

Um, hey I got my own problems with the ladies...er females...I mean....WOMEN!

Addie · February 12th, 2004, 07:36 PM

ROFL! You can always count on me to join in on the intellectual conversations!

So listen, Seth man.. Since you're so new to the dating scene, I wasn't going to mention your female problems<g>, er.. I mean troubles with the women in your life...but since you brought it up. What the hell are you thinking? Stop being such a guy! I thought you were better than that.

August 19th, 2003, 11:55 AM	#18
Cinderellen Registered User Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 498	I like being called a lady sometimes, depending on the situation, of course the same holds true for female. I think with both of these words, the attitudes of the speaker are what the real issue is. The pamphlet that started this conversation I think had a real issue. Calling men "men" and women "females" to me says that the writer values men more than women. I suppose because 'men' sounds more personal than 'females' which seems more clinical. With the term lady, it depends again on what the speaker means. If someone calls me a lady because of behavior that I've exhibited I take that as a compliment. If someone calls me lady because of behavior that they are about to engage in, then they are excluding me based on my sex, and that's not good. I think that the only words that I do not like to be called are 'girl' and 'bitch'. Sometimes I am one, lol, but I don't like to be called that. __________________ Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

February 11th, 2004, 10:22 AM	#19
crazymomma awesome cookie lady Join Date: May 2003 Location: Leechburgh, PA Posts: 1,993	I agree with Cinderellen. This the first time I've been in this folder but here is my input. I have been refered to as ladylike. I don't mind this. Cause I can swear and dress as I please but still be a lady. Sometimes the tem is used in a hurtful way. As for the term bitch. Well, dogs of the female gender are the only thing that sould have that term used with. On forms were you are asked if you are male or female I have no problem. In all depends on the content. As long as its male/female or man/ women I don't mind. as long as it's in taste and not meant to demoralize anyone. any sexual title can be demoralizing if phased wrong. Anyway, as I was going to say, the sterotype "lady" is out dated. I can wear jeans and a ratty tshirt and still be a lady. Just as a person who wears a dress everyday can look like a lady but not be one. Okay sorry, I'm getting ff subject. I'll stop now. __________________ It feels like home to me. Bonnie Rhatt

February 11th, 2004, 01:35 PM	#21
MintyFemme2 Registered User Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: CA Posts: 571	/me looks at Cod and says " hey lady" LOL. I think I understand what you are saying Cod. I don't mind being called "Lady" but alot of the times it is very impersonal. I think my biggest gripe is when the clerk hands me my receipt back and says " Thank you Mrs...." I am not married but because of my first name everyone assumes I am using my "husband's" name LOL. I also hate being called Ma'am when by young adults do it to be sassy. __________________ " Life is what you make of it"

February 11th, 2004, 05:37 PM	#22
LiamFan! Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 2,048	hey <font size=5>LADY!</font> __________________ Love is never defeated, and I could add, the history of Ireland proves it. -- Pope John Paul II

February 11th, 2004, 11:35 PM	#24
LiamFan! Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 2,048	;-) __________________ Love is never defeated, and I could add, the history of Ireland proves it. -- Pope John Paul II

August 18th, 2003, 11:09 PM	#16
Anne_VS Registered User Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 3	I consider myself a LADY, I act like one, and expected to be treated like one. And that includes being called a lady. I can accept being called a woman. But a female - that sounds like I'm being confused with livestock. Anne

August 19th, 2003, 11:15 AM	#17
Cod Hooked on The OC! Join Date: Mar 2001 Posts: 1,252	You know what....you can refer to me as female or woman but I really cringe at "lady". Maybe it's being surrounded mostly by males/men that being called a lady makes me feel unequal. I've always hated to be excluded from conversations or language because of my gender. Maybe it's because I'm not all that ladylike in my thoughts and actions. Just call me "Cod"!

February 11th, 2004, 12:37 PM	#20
Cod Hooked on The OC! Join Date: Mar 2001 Posts: 1,252	I'm not crazy about "lady". It's just a personal thing. "Girl" and "lady" make me feel set apart, whereas "female" or "woman" are both okay with me. I guess any term can be used in a condescending way, and in that case, don't even talk to me.

February 11th, 2004, 09:47 PM	#23
Cod Hooked on The OC! Join Date: Mar 2001 Posts: 1,252	ROFL....okay JerryFan!

February 12th, 2004, 10:04 AM	#25
Cod Hooked on The OC! Join Date: Mar 2001 Posts: 1,252	"Hey Dad, don't call me a lady!"

February 12th, 2004, 10:28 AM	#26
LiamFan! Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 2,048	Ha! That cracked me up. Thanks for weighing in on the issue, Seth! __________________ Love is never defeated, and I could add, the history of Ireland proves it. -- Pope John Paul II

February 12th, 2004, 10:37 AM	#27
Cod Hooked on The OC! Join Date: Mar 2001 Posts: 1,252	No problem, Ryan. (hey, do you think we're off topic?)

February 12th, 2004, 12:22 PM	#28
Addie Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 436	Off topic or not, Ryan, man, we have got to talk about this Marissa thing. "I'm sorry Ryan" is so not working for me this time. Seth, dude, I know you promised to have his back, but you gotta talk to him man.

February 12th, 2004, 01:01 PM	#29
Cod Hooked on The OC! Join Date: Mar 2001 Posts: 1,252	ROFL somehow I knew you'd join this thread. Um, hey I got my own problems with the ladies...er females...I mean....WOMEN!

February 12th, 2004, 07:36 PM	#30
Addie Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 436	ROFL! You can always count on me to join in on the intellectual conversations! So listen, Seth man.. Since you're so new to the dating scene, I wasn't going to mention your female problems<g>, er.. I mean troubles with the women in your life...but since you brought it up. What the hell are you thinking? Stop being such a guy! I thought you were better than that.