Education & Schooling - Page 2

Cinderellen · October 28th, 2003, 01:56 PM

We're having trouble with our son and his schooling. I'm concerned that he's bored in school. His grades don't reflect his knowledge or his "potential" although I dislike that word when applied to a child. What I get from our conversations is that he doesn't see the need to put forth the effort for repetetive work that he's done over and over for the last 3 years. The catch 22 to that is that because he's not making straight A's the teachers don't see him as a candidate for some sort of gifted or enrichment program. His tests are consitently high, but he puts very little effort in seatwork and homework, hence the b's. He does struggle with spelling, but again it's from not seeing a need to do it, not because he can't. He can hear or read something once and know it, for the most part, except for spelling

. I know I'm rambling, it's hard to put all this in words, when it's mostly a feeling I have based on the little I can get out of my son. He's in 5th grade, by the way.

Have any of you dealt with anything like this? What would you suggest?

Angel_Wolf · October 29th, 2003, 11:45 AM

(((( Cinderellen and son )))))
First you did the right thing by going to the principal and teacher and letting them know you don't want your child by the 'problem' child. The next thing you will have to do with your son is tell him that he has to show the Teachers and everyone else how smart he is by putting forth an effort. Yes it is repetitive and boring. However, until he has proven he can do the work (by the teacher's standards) then nothing will be done or changed. I found out by accident that my son is usually bored but I told him you get on top of this (schoolwork and homework) then he will get a chance to pick. Yet the ultimate choice is up to him. So he choose and since then he is doing great. Not all the time especially when he did Algebra, then too with peer pressure it does catch him sideways sometimes. In the meantime, I wish you the best of luck and keep your chin up.

Have a great day!

DrHilieWho · November 7th, 2003, 09:51 PM

You can compare his books to high school or college books. There will be a lot of things cut out of the 5th grade version that he can get into.

Other than that, I would really stress that it is his work ethic, vs his grades, that are bothering you. Just knowing that your folks care more about you than the grades you get can help a lot.

Good luck.

vibhasharma · October 20th, 2011, 06:20 AM

Private schools are much more good than govt. school.

maddiemondie · July 17th, 2012, 11:47 PM

Well, thanks for stressing this out.

October 28th, 2003, 01:56 PM	#16
Cinderellen Registered User Join Date: Jul 2001 Posts: 498	We're having trouble with our son and his schooling. I'm concerned that he's bored in school. His grades don't reflect his knowledge or his "potential" although I dislike that word when applied to a child. What I get from our conversations is that he doesn't see the need to put forth the effort for repetetive work that he's done over and over for the last 3 years. The catch 22 to that is that because he's not making straight A's the teachers don't see him as a candidate for some sort of gifted or enrichment program. His tests are consitently high, but he puts very little effort in seatwork and homework, hence the b's. He does struggle with spelling, but again it's from not seeing a need to do it, not because he can't. He can hear or read something once and know it, for the most part, except for spelling . I know I'm rambling, it's hard to put all this in words, when it's mostly a feeling I have based on the little I can get out of my son. He's in 5th grade, by the way. Have any of you dealt with anything like this? What would you suggest? __________________ Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

October 29th, 2003, 11:45 AM	#17
Angel_Wolf Registered User Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: USA Posts: 333	Well here is what I had to do (((( Cinderellen and son ))))) First you did the right thing by going to the principal and teacher and letting them know you don't want your child by the 'problem' child. The next thing you will have to do with your son is tell him that he has to show the Teachers and everyone else how smart he is by putting forth an effort. Yes it is repetitive and boring. However, until he has proven he can do the work (by the teacher's standards) then nothing will be done or changed. I found out by accident that my son is usually bored but I told him you get on top of this (schoolwork and homework) then he will get a chance to pick. Yet the ultimate choice is up to him. So he choose and since then he is doing great. Not all the time especially when he did Algebra, then too with peer pressure it does catch him sideways sometimes. In the meantime, I wish you the best of luck and keep your chin up. Have a great day! __________________ ~~ May you walk in the Shadow of the Creator!~~

November 7th, 2003, 09:51 PM	#18
DrHilieWho Registered User Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 244	You can compare his books to high school or college books. There will be a lot of things cut out of the 5th grade version that he can get into. Other than that, I would really stress that it is his work ethic, vs his grades, that are bothering you. Just knowing that your folks care more about you than the grades you get can help a lot. Good luck. __________________ Visit my husband's new webpage for gameaholics! Timesplitters2 Network!

October 20th, 2011, 06:20 AM	#19
vibhasharma Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Mumbai Posts: 19	Private schools are much more good than govt. school.

July 17th, 2012, 11:47 PM	#20
maddiemondie Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Posts: 19	Well, thanks for stressing this out.