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sistergirl · June 26th, 2011, 12:50 AM

All is good between me and Jackie as we have emailed each other.

Horrific situation and Jackie, it sounds like somehow you have your wits about you and that to me is amazing! Look forward to hearing from you again. Of course when it is safe to do so.

mst · June 27th, 2011, 12:23 PM

Your freedom and growth, which will happen, will leave him scars far deeper than you can imagine. You have the power you sound strong and mind set.. It is hard, but to have your life back without fear will be worth every tear that will fall. Good luck, and focus on what you are deep inside and not what you have been.

sistergirl · June 27th, 2011, 10:19 PM

So very nicely said mst.

Of course we don't really want to upset him too much, if you know what I mean...If Jackie is like a lot of women that have been beaten down emotionally and otherwise, there probably are no more tears...So d--- tragic!

mst · June 28th, 2011, 04:15 AM

I think I incorrectly worded that, no one wants to see anyone suffer but unfortunately that is the fallout from these situations, it will not be a case of wanting to hurt him but that is how men who are violent towards women think and react. The thought that Lillybug will move forward and have a normal life will be so damaging to him, but unfortunately that's how a selfish mind works. My only heterosexual relationship which was when I was much younger ended because of sexual and physical abuse and his last words were
"I would rather you be dead than with someone else" I think that say's it all, but one thing I will say please get support and any protection you may need don't leave anything to chance.
Best of luck and please take care.

sistergirl · June 30th, 2011, 11:36 PM

Happy Birthday (if at all possible) Jackie! We have cake for you!

IRISH_EYES_99 · July 5th, 2011, 01:31 AM

Says a prayer that you are all in a safe area of your lives. Everyone needs that sense of security. Lilybug1 keep posting when you can.

(((((((((( sistergirl, wolf-angel, lilybug, Jennifer & all )))))))))))))) hugs are helpful too. So I give you each a hug.

sistergirl · July 5th, 2011, 10:32 PM

consider yourself hugged back

Jennifer23 · July 7th, 2011, 03:38 PM

Irish, hugs back. You're a cool girl. I would love to have an end to abuse; both physically and mentally.

Hiddentruth · February 2nd, 2012, 10:01 AM

i am not new to the site but this name is. right now im trying to get my head stright. i have delt with emotional abuse for months and the sad thing is he didnt even know he was doing it. Know one even relized that i had peoblems in my marrage i hide things well. now i am staying with a close relative to get my head on stright. I have come to relize that the relationship between me and my husband is unhealthy for me. if i didnt have kids the awnser would all be easier. but with them involed im trying my best to heal on the inside. i am relizing that i know they need me me but they dont need me unhappy and crying around them. here i am not like that and am slowly finding out who i am again and what kind of inner strength i still have left in me. i am just glad that i have people around me that support me and understand. i am also glad that those i am are allowing me to make my own choices and will support me no matter what i choose to do. i wish everyone had people in their life like i have if they are in my situation. it is realy starting to help me.

July 5th, 2011, 01:31 AM	#36
IRISH_EYES_99 Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: in the state of confusion :) Posts: 3,524	Says a prayer that you are all in a safe area of your lives. Everyone needs that sense of security. Lilybug1 keep posting when you can. (((((((((( sistergirl, wolf-angel, lilybug, Jennifer & all )))))))))))))) hugs are helpful too. So I give you each a hug. __________________ Smiles are contagious. It's ok to pass them on. *

June 26th, 2011, 12:50 AM	#31
sistergirl Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 648	All is good between me and Jackie as we have emailed each other. Horrific situation and Jackie, it sounds like somehow you have your wits about you and that to me is amazing! Look forward to hearing from you again. Of course when it is safe to do so.

June 27th, 2011, 12:23 PM	#32
mst Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 11	Your freedom and growth, which will happen, will leave him scars far deeper than you can imagine. You have the power you sound strong and mind set.. It is hard, but to have your life back without fear will be worth every tear that will fall. Good luck, and focus on what you are deep inside and not what you have been.

June 27th, 2011, 10:19 PM	#33
sistergirl Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 648	So very nicely said mst. Of course we don't really want to upset him too much, if you know what I mean...If Jackie is like a lot of women that have been beaten down emotionally and otherwise, there probably are no more tears...So d--- tragic!

June 28th, 2011, 04:15 AM	#34
mst Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 11	I think I incorrectly worded that, no one wants to see anyone suffer but unfortunately that is the fallout from these situations, it will not be a case of wanting to hurt him but that is how men who are violent towards women think and react. The thought that Lillybug will move forward and have a normal life will be so damaging to him, but unfortunately that's how a selfish mind works. My only heterosexual relationship which was when I was much younger ended because of sexual and physical abuse and his last words were "I would rather you be dead than with someone else" I think that say's it all, but one thing I will say please get support and any protection you may need don't leave anything to chance. Best of luck and please take care.

June 30th, 2011, 11:36 PM	#35
sistergirl Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 648	Happy Birthday (if at all possible) Jackie! We have cake for you!

July 5th, 2011, 10:32 PM	#37
sistergirl Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 648	consider yourself hugged back

July 7th, 2011, 03:38 PM	#38
Jennifer23 Jennifer23 Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 3,187	Irish, hugs back. You're a cool girl. I would love to have an end to abuse; both physically and mentally.

February 2nd, 2012, 10:01 AM	#39
Hiddentruth Member Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: state of confusion Posts: 2	i am not new to the site but this name is. right now im trying to get my head stright. i have delt with emotional abuse for months and the sad thing is he didnt even know he was doing it. Know one even relized that i had peoblems in my marrage i hide things well. now i am staying with a close relative to get my head on stright. I have come to relize that the relationship between me and my husband is unhealthy for me. if i didnt have kids the awnser would all be easier. but with them involed im trying my best to heal on the inside. i am relizing that i know they need me me but they dont need me unhappy and crying around them. here i am not like that and am slowly finding out who i am again and what kind of inner strength i still have left in me. i am just glad that i have people around me that support me and understand. i am also glad that those i am are allowing me to make my own choices and will support me no matter what i choose to do. i wish everyone had people in their life like i have if they are in my situation. it is realy starting to help me.