What turns you on????

[Foreverauntie]

What turns me on is, when we are at some function,party, etc. and I look across the room and he gives me that look. (you know the one, the one that states you are his. and he is the only one that holds the key to you) I instantly blush. It is a connection between you and him that noone else knows.

[mouellett]

being wanted...
or realizing how much i love him...

however, i think that it's interesting how these posts would in no way match a similar forum on a guy's chat site...

Originally Posted by mandeley

Men say all woman are the same. Lets see how true this is. Just for interest sake, what turns woman on. Some may be turned on with a simple kiss or touch, what turns you on.

Wouldn't the men like to read your replies???????

i AM TURNED ON W2ITH PEOPLES MIND. i CAN ENJOY HUMOR AT THE START WITOUT USING BAD LANGUAGE. a MAN THAT KNOWS HOW TO BE A GENTLEMAN AND HIS TABLE MANNERS AND FINGER NAILS (CLEAN)

[PoohsBigSister]

what turns me on? that look in his eye that says... "Damn Grace... you are one sexy woman...and you are all mine..." and... when he kisses my neck... i melt when he does that...sigh.

[Kitty P]

What turns me on is that he is there for me no matter what kind of mood I am in. He knows how to make me laugh according to the situation. For truely being there for me no matter what.

[PoohsBigSister]

that too Kitty!! LOL!!! i could go on and on and on about him...but.. ooh.. I already do that!! in my dating thread..giggle!

I found my Prince Charming...and I'm keeping him!

[kirby]

New to this site but stumbled across this thread and thought I had to add in my part.

Correct me if I'm wrong and I think I am, but I think some of you are confused. I understand the question "What turns you on?" as a sexual question. But it seem as if most of you woman are giving answers more appropriate to the question "What loving gestures/qualities do you look for from your partner?" or something similar.

I myself, do not get turned on when he looks at me from accross the room with a loving gaze. This is affection, and it overwhelms me with love, not the desire to jump on him.

Therefore, I feel our answers to the question should be more along these lines;

"What turns you on?"

Porn, talking dirty, not wearing underwear and then telling him I'm not wearing any, long sweet kissing while rolling around in our underwear, etc, etc.

[PoohsBigSister]

wow... really? I totally get turned on by the look he gives me across the room. It totally makes me "deisre to jump on him" as you put it.

[crazymomma]

OMG I can relate! I feel the same when I glads up and catch him looking at me. I get this warm fuzzy feeling.

[PoohsBigSister]

Course with me..it doesn't take much for him to "turn me on" ... LOL! and we've actually had discussions about this...

HI CRAZYMOMMA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! how're you today??

[Tammy]

Originally Posted by kirby

Therefore, I feel our answers to the question should be more along these lines;

"What turns you on?"

Porn, talking dirty, not wearing underwear and then telling him I'm not wearing any, long sweet kissing while rolling around in our underwear, etc, etc.

Maybe your answers should be more along those lines... and nobody will fault you for it. Personally, I can't stand porn. Talking dirty makes me want to clean up. And underwear is just another article of clothing - that usually rides up at the most inconvenient times.

I think most of the answers in this discussion are actually real answers, versus the socially appropriate ones. Just as an example of those sorts of answers - how long should sex last? Apparently minutes, not hours. Not too long ago, I was forwarded this article..

Good Sexual Intercourse Lasts Minutes, Not Hours, Therapists Say
ScienceDaily (Apr. 2, 2008)

"Satisfactory sexual intercourse for couples lasts from 3 to 13 minutes, contrary to popular fantasy about the need for hours of sexual activity, according to a survey of U.S. and Canadian sex therapists.

Penn State Erie researchers Eric Corty and Jenay Guardiani conducted a survey of 50 full members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research, which include psychologists, physicians, social workers, marriage/family therapists and nurses who have collectively seen thousands of patients over several decades.

Thirty-four, or 68 percent, of the group responded and rated a range of time amounts for sexual intercourse, from penetration of the vagina by the penis until ejaculation, that they considered adequate, desirable, too short and too long.

The average therapists' responses defined the ranges of intercourse activity times: "adequate," from 3-7 minutes; "desirable," from 7-13 minutes; "too short" from 1-2 minutes; and "too long" from 10-30 minutes.

"A man's or woman's interpretation of his or her sexual functioning as well as the partner's relies on personal beliefs developed in part from society's messages, formal and informal," the researchers said. ""Unfortunately, today's popular culture has reinforced stereotypes about sexual activity. Many men and women seem to believe the fantasy model of large penises, rock-hard erections and all-night-long intercourse. "

Past research has found that a large percentage of men and women, who responded, wanted sex to last 30 minutes or longer.

"This seems a situation ripe for disappointment and dissatisfaction," said lead author Eric Corty, associate professor of psychology. "With this survey, we hope to dispel such fantasies and encourage men and women with realistic data about acceptable sexual intercourse, thus preventing sexual disappointments and dysfunctions."

Corty and Guardiani, then-undergraduate student and now a University graduate, are publishing their findings in the May issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, but the article is currently available online.

The survey's research also has implications for treatment of people with existing sexual problems.

"If a patient is concerned about how long intercourse should last, these data can help shift the patient away from a concern about physical disorders and to be initially treated with counseling, instead of medicine," Corty noted.

I fon't think that all women are same. Every women has her own feelings and styles

[PoohsBigSister]

Very true vivek...

Tammy... SEX (for me at least) - they are correct...lasts between 15 and 20 minutes. the FOREPLAY and AFTERCUDDLING - can stretch the "total" time out to hours sometimes... and others not so much.

I think it's interesting to read articles like this one... but even more fun to just experience it myself.

I agree with your opinions on porn and talking dirty etc. i just couldn't quite find the polite way to phrase it. LOL!

HUGS TO ALL!

[rjsfeminist]

What turns me on? A man who treats me completely right, has a sense of humor, is willing to try new things (both in and out of bed) on those times when "things" just aren't working. Oh, and showers. (Nothing like the stinky stench of "Eau de haven't-bathed-in-weeks" to totally gross me out!!! )

My 2nd husband might not have looked like Brad Pitt or (for those of us a few years older) Kevin Cosner or Tom Selleck, but he definitely treated me fantastic, was willing to try stuff, and had a great sense of humor. (And showered; sometimes, he'd make a big production out of it...but I'll leave that to the imagination. )

[DACDjr]

Toby Keith

(Daccie walks away pondering calling Toby Keith and telling him she loves him so much she would leave her DH for him)


(like a million other women wouldn't do that) :d