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IRISH_EYES_99 · January 26th, 2014, 11:33 PM

Well we will keep Wolf_Angel, * Synful Poet & others in our thoughts & prayers. Maybe things are going good in their lives, maybe one of these days they will drop in here to say Hello. Hope so. In the mean time we can stay connected.

Gets some duct tape & scatters it to keep us sticking together. ..

rjsfeminist · January 27th, 2014, 06:48 PM

I had a way to contact Wolfie, too, but that was a few years back, and I know things have changed since then. Wish there was a way to make sure she's okay...Also, has anyone heard from Pooh's Big Sister? Irish, I'm ripping off some duct tape...

IRISH_EYES_99 · January 27th, 2014, 08:22 PM

((((((( rjs))))))) I'm in touch with Poohs Big Sister. She is doing well. Very busy. I'll see if I can talk her into trying to get time to be on here.

She'll be thrilled that she is remembered.

Jennifer23 · January 27th, 2014, 09:30 PM

You all have been here longer then I have, but I appreciate the loyalty that you maintain with your friends. I wish that they could all be back!

IRISH_EYES_99 · January 28th, 2014, 02:28 AM

Wish they could all be back too. Sometimes rl plays a bigger role, and things need to be taken care of. As I said before you never know when one, two, or three of them may decide to pop back in, and maybe stick around more often.

PoohsBigSister · January 28th, 2014, 05:01 PM

Ok, ok, ok... it's a loooonnnnnnggggg story, but life has been a bit tumultuous this past couple years. I got married (as ya'll know) in July 2011. My hubby's son was 14 at the time, and a special needs kid. (he is adopted, and his bio mom was a crack addict) He was violent, and we begged and begged for help, but couldn't get anyone to help us. We even discussed giving him back to the state - to be told hubby would go to jail if he did that for abandonment. The day after we returned from our honeymoon, we had to call the police for domestic violence, and all they did was shake their head at him and tell him to straighten up. (give me a break!) This continued for another year!! In August of 2012, he was angry because I told my hubby to ignore his outburst rather than feed into it, something our therapist had told us to try. He came after me with a shovel, and hubby got in between him and I. So, when he couldn't get to me, he attacked my car. He did $900 worth of damage to my car. We called the police, and they said...we can't do anything, he is a minor. seriously...i was attacked by him, and yet they let him stay in our house!! We finally got heard because I refused to let this go. I pressed charges - despite the police trying to talk me out of it?!?!?! It went to court, and his adoptive mom (hubby's ex) finally stepped up and took him (she was seeing him 5 hours a month at this point). So, he went to a residential care place for 10 months and then moved into her house. He was doing really well up until last weekend. He attacked mom's boyfriend last weekend. Mom called us and said either you come and get him or i'm calling the police. I know it was the hardest thing hubby has ever done, but he said...call the police, I'm not coming to get him. This was based on a conversation between the two of us where we both agreed he couldn't come back into our home because of violence. Son has two strikes, one more and he goes to jail for a year - no second chances, so if she called the police, chances were, he would go to jail for a year. She didn't call the cops. She didn't expect hubby to say no!!

We went to counseling (we still do family counseling with son, even though he doesn't live in our house.... we feel it is important since he still comes to visit and it helps us all be on the same page with a neutral mediator) on Wed. and he asked if he could come live with us again - we said NO. We made sure he knew he was loved, but that he couldn't come back to live with us because he hadn't really changed his ways. He was still being violent to get his way. NOT HAPPENING.

On top of that, my supervisor (also the owner) at my job in August pushed me up against a wall and screamed at me - in front of a co-worker. I tried to quit, and was not successful. They did promise to change my position so that I wouldn't work with her anymore. Later that day, she came into my office and said "you can't quit, you will never have it as good anywhere else as you have it here". And, I thought to myself, I am a "battered wife" at work!! So, off to counseling I went. On Oct. 21, she was angry before I even got to work, nothing I said or did was right, and by 9am, she was yelling at me again. She got so violent in her yelling that I KNOW in my heart that had I not had a four foot wide desk between us, she would have hit me. I quit that day. I walked out and didn't look back.

I am having a problem finding a job now because I didn't give notice to them, but rather just quit.... even though I wasn't safe. Even though I filed for unemployment and was awarded it based on domestic violence in the workplace.... sigh.

So, I'm sorry I've been out of the loop...but I do cherish knowing ya'll remembered me enough to ask about me.

HUGS TO ALL!!!

IRISH_EYES_99 · January 28th, 2014, 05:37 PM

(((((((((( PBS )))))))))), You can always vent away in here. Feel so bad that all that was going on in your life. Can you feel the love. Cherish that, know that we are here. Sometimes writing things down as you did here, helps the situation. You put it out in the open. The words were said. That can be a good part of the recovery. That woman, the boss is the one that needs help with her temper. Can't help but wonder what life for her family at home is like. ... You are STRONG remain that way. Take this one day, one step at a time. I will keep you all in my prayers. Stay SAFE that's important, Stay in contact. (((((( hugs )))))))

Allie · January 29th, 2014, 12:18 AM

{{{{{PoohsBigSister}}}}}

crazymomma · January 29th, 2014, 10:43 PM

((((((((PBS)))))))) Lady I have missed soooo more than words can say!! I have been in your shoes with my room mates son. not pretty. He ended up in placement for 2 years and now is living with us again and it is such a change. It sounds like you 2 and the ex need to show a united front, stick to your guns and show him what he is doing won't fly.

Sorry about your job. I pray you find another one soon.
Oh and one more thing welcome home my dear, dear friend.

Jennifer23 · January 30th, 2014, 02:05 PM

PBS, it's so nice to have you here!!

IRISH_EYES_99 · January 30th, 2014, 02:46 PM

Passes out cups of (coffee)c ( tea)c ( hot chocolate )c cream/ milk / sugar/ s&l/ spender/mini marshmallows.. enjoy

crazymomma · February 1st, 2014, 11:04 PM

Thanks Irish! You always been the best hostess.

DACDjr · February 5th, 2014, 05:19 PM

Well it is nice to see that some still come in here!

I miss everyone!!! But life is so hectic right now, I hardly find time for me anymore. (sigh)
I sure hope everyone is doing well! I love you gals!

Jennifer23 · February 5th, 2014, 07:58 PM

We love you too, and stop by when you can.

crazymomma · February 6th, 2014, 10:41 PM

dac come in when you can everyone here in the same boat.

January 26th, 2014, 11:33 PM	#46
IRISH_EYES_99 Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: in the state of confusion :) Posts: 3,524	Well we will keep Wolf_Angel, * Synful Poet & others in our thoughts & prayers. Maybe things are going good in their lives, maybe one of these days they will drop in here to say Hello. Hope so. In the mean time we can stay connected. Gets some duct tape & scatters it to keep us sticking together. .. __________________ Smiles are contagious. It's ok to pass them on. *

January 27th, 2014, 08:22 PM	#48
IRISH_EYES_99 Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: in the state of confusion :) Posts: 3,524	((((((( rjs))))))) I'm in touch with Poohs Big Sister. She is doing well. Very busy. I'll see if I can talk her into trying to get time to be on here. She'll be thrilled that she is remembered. __________________ Smiles are contagious. It's ok to pass them on. *

January 28th, 2014, 02:28 AM	#50
IRISH_EYES_99 Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: in the state of confusion :) Posts: 3,524	Wish they could all be back too. Sometimes rl plays a bigger role, and things need to be taken care of. As I said before you never know when one, two, or three of them may decide to pop back in, and maybe stick around more often. __________________ Smiles are contagious. It's ok to pass them on. *

January 28th, 2014, 05:01 PM	#51
PoohsBigSister Long Live WOW!! Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: CO Posts: 1,791	Ok, ok, ok... it's a loooonnnnnnggggg story, but life has been a bit tumultuous this past couple years. I got married (as ya'll know) in July 2011. My hubby's son was 14 at the time, and a special needs kid. (he is adopted, and his bio mom was a crack addict) He was violent, and we begged and begged for help, but couldn't get anyone to help us. We even discussed giving him back to the state - to be told hubby would go to jail if he did that for abandonment. The day after we returned from our honeymoon, we had to call the police for domestic violence, and all they did was shake their head at him and tell him to straighten up. (give me a break!) This continued for another year!! In August of 2012, he was angry because I told my hubby to ignore his outburst rather than feed into it, something our therapist had told us to try. He came after me with a shovel, and hubby got in between him and I. So, when he couldn't get to me, he attacked my car. He did $900 worth of damage to my car. We called the police, and they said...we can't do anything, he is a minor. seriously...i was attacked by him, and yet they let him stay in our house!! We finally got heard because I refused to let this go. I pressed charges - despite the police trying to talk me out of it?!?!?! It went to court, and his adoptive mom (hubby's ex) finally stepped up and took him (she was seeing him 5 hours a month at this point). So, he went to a residential care place for 10 months and then moved into her house. He was doing really well up until last weekend. He attacked mom's boyfriend last weekend. Mom called us and said either you come and get him or i'm calling the police. I know it was the hardest thing hubby has ever done, but he said...call the police, I'm not coming to get him. This was based on a conversation between the two of us where we both agreed he couldn't come back into our home because of violence. Son has two strikes, one more and he goes to jail for a year - no second chances, so if she called the police, chances were, he would go to jail for a year. She didn't call the cops. She didn't expect hubby to say no!! We went to counseling (we still do family counseling with son, even though he doesn't live in our house.... we feel it is important since he still comes to visit and it helps us all be on the same page with a neutral mediator) on Wed. and he asked if he could come live with us again - we said NO. We made sure he knew he was loved, but that he couldn't come back to live with us because he hadn't really changed his ways. He was still being violent to get his way. NOT HAPPENING. On top of that, my supervisor (also the owner) at my job in August pushed me up against a wall and screamed at me - in front of a co-worker. I tried to quit, and was not successful. They did promise to change my position so that I wouldn't work with her anymore. Later that day, she came into my office and said "you can't quit, you will never have it as good anywhere else as you have it here". And, I thought to myself, I am a "battered wife" at work!! So, off to counseling I went. On Oct. 21, she was angry before I even got to work, nothing I said or did was right, and by 9am, she was yelling at me again. She got so violent in her yelling that I KNOW in my heart that had I not had a four foot wide desk between us, she would have hit me. I quit that day. I walked out and didn't look back. I am having a problem finding a job now because I didn't give notice to them, but rather just quit.... even though I wasn't safe. Even though I filed for unemployment and was awarded it based on domestic violence in the workplace.... sigh. So, I'm sorry I've been out of the loop...but I do cherish knowing ya'll remembered me enough to ask about me. HUGS TO ALL!!! __________________ "Life is a flower of which love is the honey." Victor Hugo

January 28th, 2014, 05:37 PM	#52
IRISH_EYES_99 Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: in the state of confusion :) Posts: 3,524	(((((((((( PBS )))))))))), You can always vent away in here. Feel so bad that all that was going on in your life. Can you feel the love. Cherish that, know that we are here. Sometimes writing things down as you did here, helps the situation. You put it out in the open. The words were said. That can be a good part of the recovery. That woman, the boss is the one that needs help with her temper. Can't help but wonder what life for her family at home is like. ... You are STRONG remain that way. Take this one day, one step at a time. I will keep you all in my prayers. Stay SAFE that's important, Stay in contact. (((((( hugs ))))))) __________________ Smiles are contagious. It's ok to pass them on. *

January 27th, 2014, 06:48 PM	#47
rjsfeminist Member Join Date: May 2001 Location: west central Florida Posts: 1,564	I had a way to contact Wolfie, too, but that was a few years back, and I know things have changed since then. Wish there was a way to make sure she's okay...Also, has anyone heard from Pooh's Big Sister? Irish, I'm ripping off some duct tape...

January 27th, 2014, 09:30 PM	#49
Jennifer23 Jennifer23 Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 3,187	You all have been here longer then I have, but I appreciate the loyalty that you maintain with your friends. I wish that they could all be back!

January 29th, 2014, 12:18 AM	#53
Allie Member Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: San Antonio, TX Posts: 70	{{{{{PoohsBigSister}}}}} __________________ Me getting Ashley Force Hood's signature at the Mile-Hi Nationals at Bandimere

January 29th, 2014, 10:43 PM	#54
crazymomma awesome cookie lady Join Date: May 2003 Location: Leechburgh, PA Posts: 1,993	((((((((PBS)))))))) Lady I have missed soooo more than words can say!! I have been in your shoes with my room mates son. not pretty. He ended up in placement for 2 years and now is living with us again and it is such a change. It sounds like you 2 and the ex need to show a united front, stick to your guns and show him what he is doing won't fly. Sorry about your job. I pray you find another one soon. Oh and one more thing welcome home my dear, dear friend. __________________ It feels like home to me. Bonnie Rhatt

January 30th, 2014, 02:05 PM	#55
Jennifer23 Jennifer23 Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 3,187	PBS, it's so nice to have you here!!

January 30th, 2014, 02:46 PM	#56
IRISH_EYES_99 Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: in the state of confusion :) Posts: 3,524	Passes out cups of (coffee)c ( tea)c ( hot chocolate )c cream/ milk / sugar/ s&l/ spender/mini marshmallows.. enjoy __________________ Smiles are contagious. It's ok to pass them on. *

February 1st, 2014, 11:04 PM	#57
crazymomma awesome cookie lady Join Date: May 2003 Location: Leechburgh, PA Posts: 1,993	Thanks Irish! You always been the best hostess. __________________ It feels like home to me. Bonnie Rhatt

February 5th, 2014, 05:19 PM	#58
DACDjr Senior Memeber Join Date: May 2001 Location: Indiana Posts: 864	Well it is nice to see that some still come in here! I miss everyone!!! But life is so hectic right now, I hardly find time for me anymore. (sigh) I sure hope everyone is doing well! I love you gals! __________________ KAP-AJS

February 5th, 2014, 07:58 PM	#59
Jennifer23 Jennifer23 Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 3,187	We love you too, and stop by when you can.

February 6th, 2014, 10:41 PM	#60
crazymomma awesome cookie lady Join Date: May 2003 Location: Leechburgh, PA Posts: 1,993	dac come in when you can everyone here in the same boat. __________________ It feels like home to me. Bonnie Rhatt