Is love real or make believe? - Page 4

sistergirl · May 25th, 2011, 10:38 AM

"thanks for trying"?

sistergirl · May 25th, 2011, 12:04 PM

My intitil reaction (up there) is because it seems that I have misunderstood why you brought this topic to light. I guess I was thinking you were looking for encouragement, a better way, but it seems I was mistaken

. I think you will find that not too many people will continue to reach out to someone who is not willing to keep an open mind and try to help themselves.... and so I wish you lots of luck to you unknown and I truly hope you find peace. Take good care.

StacyH. · May 25th, 2011, 03:26 PM

unknown YOU ARE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL WOMEN IN THE WORLD keep telling this to yourself. I suffered from low self esteem for many years. One counselor I had told me to right on sticky notes and post them all over the house. That way I read it everyday. May be corny to some. But I will admit it helped to better the way I look at myself. Stop looking for love and it will find you. I hope one day you will find that true love and have your happy everafter.

Wolf_angel · May 26th, 2011, 07:07 AM

Good example and points Stacy! Hugs

unknown-ml · May 29th, 2011, 01:06 AM

wolf angel, that may be true if they would stay around long enough to see what is on the inside, they cant get past the wrapper, as you put it.

unknown-ml · May 29th, 2011, 02:44 AM

everything that ya'll have mentioned about building up my self esteem, i have already done, and they did not work, that is why i have been thanking ya'll for trying to help me. i have done these things already.

IRISH_EYES_99 · May 29th, 2011, 09:56 AM

Love is real. When it's true love it grows each & every day. My love & I just celebrated our 42nd wedding anniversary. Our love has grown though the years. Don't take love for granted, don't take the person your with for granted. Love works especially when you both work to keep it strong. It's the little things that count the most. A kiss as he/ she passes by to go to another room. Flirting with each other over a cup of coffee. A wink, a smile. Yes it's as simple as that. Don't stay angry with each other. Remember the best part of an argument is making up. Good luck & don't give up. Learn to treasure the small tokens, the bigger tokens aren't always the richest.

sistergirl · May 29th, 2011, 10:59 AM

Beautifully put Irish (even though you're Boston fan)....I wish unknown would find something in life that would make her (you unknown) feel good about herself like volunteering as I mentioned earlier. There is great satisfaction and a feeling of belonging when you can give yourself to something or somone in need. Believe me, it will make you feel loved. Can't hurt to try. Everyone deserves to be and feel loved.

unknown-ml · May 29th, 2011, 02:21 PM

i am already taking care of my elderly mom, but i dont feel satisfied or loved

sistergirl · May 29th, 2011, 03:54 PM

Hello unknown, that is not what I had in mind...that can be draining and stressful, but you are doing a good thing. I think if you volunteered at a hospital rocking babies or at a shelter caring for homeless animals...just some ideas off the top of my head. But there are many enjoyable things that you can surround yourself with. Taking care of mom is very hard work...You need a release, something for yourself, period. Are you absorbing any of this I wonder? If you truly want to change things you will unknown.

unknown-ml · May 30th, 2011, 12:53 AM

hi sistergirl, a couple of things come to mind, one, there are only 24 hrs in a day during the school yr i work 2 jobs plus take care of mom (finding time is an issue) and the second thing, how is working a third job going to give me release? i am exhausted now. the little time i do find for myself is sleeping, when i am on this thing it is only for a couple of minutes.

sistergirl · May 30th, 2011, 01:04 AM

unknown, I had no idea how busy your schedule is and not to mention being caregiver to your mom. No wonder you feel down! Please girl, take some time for yourself. I think it's great that you go to school and I am sure you are working two jobs because you are in a desperate situation...But where do "you" fit in, where is the space and time for "you"? Isn't there anyway you can get financial help so that you don't kill yourself in the mean

time? Forgive me for being so personal, but we who have responded to you are concerned and are hoping for the best for you. You deserve so much credit for being so responsible and the thing is if you burn out then who cares for your mom and can fill in for your jobs and school? It sounds like the load is all on your head right now.

unknown-ml · May 30th, 2011, 07:35 PM

sistergirl, i did work 40 hrs a week for a retailer, i still work there but i had to cut my hrs, to better tend to mom and during school year, i work part time with city as a crossing gaurd for school kids. and you are right i am feeling burnout and really the only me time i have is when i slip away to my bedroom and try to re-group. it is hard to re-group when there is no love in my life and you are also right about the load all being on me. and getting help would mean letting those government idiots dig into my personal life and i dont want that. there is not a day that goes by that i dont think of what would happen to mom if something happens to me. i have two brothers but they live out of state, i have already told one of them that if something happens to me, he is getting mom.

sistergirl · May 30th, 2011, 08:28 PM

unknown, unless you are running from the law(hope not) it would be a great service to you and your mom to see what help is out there...financially and work wise caring for your mom and respite for you.

Elusive Unicorn · May 31st, 2011, 09:11 AM

You my dear have a very full plate. I know the path you are traveling is not an easy one to take. Try and find time for yourself. Take pleasure in the simple things life offers. Find or make the time to relax not just regroup. Take a relaxing bubble bath or just a hot soak in the tub. Read a book anything to just unwind and find a way to relax. Yes having someone to share the burden might make it easier sometimes but not always. You need to also take care of you. I have to find time also, even if I am not as busy as you are. I havent been on here as much as I would like. But a dear friend of mine lost his teenage daughter in a accident, so I have been spending alot of my spare time talking to him. I kind of know what he is going though even if I have never lost a child. I have lost people close to me. So if I do not respond right away It is with good reason.
Please take care of yourself. It sounds like you need to find time to relax and recharge.

May 26th, 2011, 07:07 AM	#49
Wolf_angel A survivor of chaos Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Where my heart is Posts: 3,147	Good example and points Stacy! Hugs __________________ May you walk in the shadow of the Great Spirit~To help others is a special gift we can either give or take~The more you give the more you receive~

May 29th, 2011, 09:56 AM	#52
IRISH_EYES_99 Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: in the state of confusion :) Posts: 3,524	Love is real. When it's true love it grows each & every day. My love & I just celebrated our 42nd wedding anniversary. Our love has grown though the years. Don't take love for granted, don't take the person your with for granted. Love works especially when you both work to keep it strong. It's the little things that count the most. A kiss as he/ she passes by to go to another room. Flirting with each other over a cup of coffee. A wink, a smile. Yes it's as simple as that. Don't stay angry with each other. Remember the best part of an argument is making up. Good luck & don't give up. Learn to treasure the small tokens, the bigger tokens aren't always the richest. __________________ Smiles are contagious. It's ok to pass them on. *

May 31st, 2011, 09:11 AM	#60
Elusive Unicorn Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Utica,NY Posts: 806	You my dear have a very full plate. I know the path you are traveling is not an easy one to take. Try and find time for yourself. Take pleasure in the simple things life offers. Find or make the time to relax not just regroup. Take a relaxing bubble bath or just a hot soak in the tub. Read a book anything to just unwind and find a way to relax. Yes having someone to share the burden might make it easier sometimes but not always. You need to also take care of you. I have to find time also, even if I am not as busy as you are. I havent been on here as much as I would like. But a dear friend of mine lost his teenage daughter in a accident, so I have been spending alot of my spare time talking to him. I kind of know what he is going though even if I have never lost a child. I have lost people close to me. So if I do not respond right away It is with good reason. Please take care of yourself. It sounds like you need to find time to relax and recharge. __________________ Any and all typos I may make are in the name of science. My tests will be conclued when ever I get around to it.

May 25th, 2011, 10:38 AM	#46
sistergirl Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 648	"thanks for trying"?

May 25th, 2011, 12:04 PM	#47
sistergirl Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 648	My intitil reaction (up there) is because it seems that I have misunderstood why you brought this topic to light. I guess I was thinking you were looking for encouragement, a better way, but it seems I was mistaken . I think you will find that not too many people will continue to reach out to someone who is not willing to keep an open mind and try to help themselves.... and so I wish you lots of luck to you unknown and I truly hope you find peace. Take good care.

May 25th, 2011, 03:26 PM	#48
StacyH. Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: With my kids Posts: 83	unknown YOU ARE THE MOST BEAUTIFUL WOMEN IN THE WORLD keep telling this to yourself. I suffered from low self esteem for many years. One counselor I had told me to right on sticky notes and post them all over the house. That way I read it everyday. May be corny to some. But I will admit it helped to better the way I look at myself. Stop looking for love and it will find you. I hope one day you will find that true love and have your happy everafter.

May 29th, 2011, 01:06 AM	#50
unknown-ml Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 71	wolf angel, that may be true if they would stay around long enough to see what is on the inside, they cant get past the wrapper, as you put it.

May 29th, 2011, 02:44 AM	#51
unknown-ml Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 71	everything that ya'll have mentioned about building up my self esteem, i have already done, and they did not work, that is why i have been thanking ya'll for trying to help me. i have done these things already.

May 29th, 2011, 10:59 AM	#53
sistergirl Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 648	Beautifully put Irish (even though you're Boston fan)....I wish unknown would find something in life that would make her (you unknown) feel good about herself like volunteering as I mentioned earlier. There is great satisfaction and a feeling of belonging when you can give yourself to something or somone in need. Believe me, it will make you feel loved. Can't hurt to try. Everyone deserves to be and feel loved.

May 29th, 2011, 02:21 PM	#54
unknown-ml Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 71	i am already taking care of my elderly mom, but i dont feel satisfied or loved

May 29th, 2011, 03:54 PM	#55
sistergirl Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 648	Hello unknown, that is not what I had in mind...that can be draining and stressful, but you are doing a good thing. I think if you volunteered at a hospital rocking babies or at a shelter caring for homeless animals...just some ideas off the top of my head. But there are many enjoyable things that you can surround yourself with. Taking care of mom is very hard work...You need a release, something for yourself, period. Are you absorbing any of this I wonder? If you truly want to change things you will unknown.

May 30th, 2011, 12:53 AM	#56
unknown-ml Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 71	hi sistergirl, a couple of things come to mind, one, there are only 24 hrs in a day during the school yr i work 2 jobs plus take care of mom (finding time is an issue) and the second thing, how is working a third job going to give me release? i am exhausted now. the little time i do find for myself is sleeping, when i am on this thing it is only for a couple of minutes.

May 30th, 2011, 01:04 AM	#57
sistergirl Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 648	unknown, I had no idea how busy your schedule is and not to mention being caregiver to your mom. No wonder you feel down! Please girl, take some time for yourself. I think it's great that you go to school and I am sure you are working two jobs because you are in a desperate situation...But where do "you" fit in, where is the space and time for "you"? Isn't there anyway you can get financial help so that you don't kill yourself in the mean time? Forgive me for being so personal, but we who have responded to you are concerned and are hoping for the best for you. You deserve so much credit for being so responsible and the thing is if you burn out then who cares for your mom and can fill in for your jobs and school? It sounds like the load is all on your head right now.

May 30th, 2011, 07:35 PM	#58
unknown-ml Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 71	sistergirl, i did work 40 hrs a week for a retailer, i still work there but i had to cut my hrs, to better tend to mom and during school year, i work part time with city as a crossing gaurd for school kids. and you are right i am feeling burnout and really the only me time i have is when i slip away to my bedroom and try to re-group. it is hard to re-group when there is no love in my life and you are also right about the load all being on me. and getting help would mean letting those government idiots dig into my personal life and i dont want that. there is not a day that goes by that i dont think of what would happen to mom if something happens to me. i have two brothers but they live out of state, i have already told one of them that if something happens to me, he is getting mom.

May 30th, 2011, 08:28 PM	#59
sistergirl Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 648	unknown, unless you are running from the law(hope not) it would be a great service to you and your mom to see what help is out there...financially and work wise caring for your mom and respite for you.