Is love real or make believe? - Page 5

sistergirl · May 31st, 2011, 12:53 PM

Well said Elusive. I hope unknown will make that special time for herself too.

How horrible for your friend and I am sure it is effecting you as well. You sound like a great friend. Life is so fragile and that's why we need to stop and smell the roses, literally. God speed.

sistergirl · May 31st, 2011, 10:59 PM

Hello unknown, I got this link from a caregiving forum, I hope you will check it out...it could prove to be helpful.

http://www.fianationalnetwork.org/index.cfm

unknown-ml · July 3rd, 2011, 05:58 PM

i never wanted to be a caregiver, it just got dropped in my lap, so i'm just going to do the best i can with what i have.

i do wish that love had not died before i could know what it felt like.

Jennifer23 · July 3rd, 2011, 08:35 PM

Unknown, I'm not going to give you any advice. I'd just say take one day at a time.

sistergirl · July 3rd, 2011, 09:47 PM

I don't think love died, I think your hope has died. How sad.

July 3rd, 2011, 10:49 PM

Love is what you make it. If you believe its make believe that's what you will get in return. If you believe love is real, than real love you shall recieve.

georgie · July 4th, 2011, 01:23 PM

Totally agree sistergirl.

unknown-ml · July 4th, 2011, 06:29 PM

your right sister girl, i have no hope. anyone who has ever experience love then they have no idea how i am feeling. i am just an outsider looking in. i will be so glad when this life is over.

IRISH_EYES_99 · July 5th, 2011, 12:45 AM

Dear unknown-mi, Sincerely hope that you find hope in your life. In your very exsistance. As Jennifer said, one day at a time. One moment at a time. I really believe when one door closes another one opens.. we have to be aware of that opening. Make a list of things that are right in your life. Look around with opened eyes, and an open heart. Try journaling one positive thing a day. One thing that you've accomplished just by being. Good luck I pray that you will find hope, and in hope love.

unknown-ml · July 5th, 2011, 01:07 AM

thanks irish eyes, there are no doors or windows open. they are all locked. and i am still locked outside. i used to have hope, i got tired of all the rejections, so i gave up. i am 47 years old and ive never dated and as it stands right now, i never will.

IRISH_EYES_99 · July 5th, 2011, 07:17 AM

unknown-ml you're welcome. You sound so depressed. Please talk to someone who will listen to you & perhaps be able to help you face things in your life. You say you're 47, could you be going though "the change". I found that vitamin B12 + helped with the mood swings & depression. Please talk to someone you feel close too. Talking things though does help. It helps put things in order better for you.
As far as dating better to get your emotions in order first, then you'll be ready to take that step with a positive look. Here is a true story a friend of my older sister got married for the 1st time at 60 yrs of age. They just celebrated their 12th aniversary. So things that are good happen at any age. You have to try & look at the positive.
Try vit B12+
Hang in there & know we are here.

sistergirl · July 5th, 2011, 01:24 PM

ml, this earth is for everyone! That includes you. You have a right to be here on this earth just as anyone else. Is there a reason you are not in counselling with a psychiatrist?

You are in a very dark place and men is not the answer. There is something else driving your thoughts.

Are you going to just complain about how bad things are, or are you willing to get to a psychiatrist who may be able to help lighten the load a bit..... This place can only listen and add our own very personal thoughts...we cannot help you in the way you need help.

If you don't want help then why are you here? I think you want someone to reach out and help. I also think you need to reach out to receive the help. You have choices unless of course you are locked inside a cave. You have choices.

Jennifer23 · July 5th, 2011, 06:23 PM

Unknown, Irish and Sister are right. Don't give up.

unknown-ml · July 7th, 2011, 03:53 PM

i am seeing a pyhcologist and i am on anti-depressants. getting married for the first time at age 60 just does not happen. and talking to the pyhcologist is not solving anything. a man and a family is all i ever wanted in life. i wish i could see the positive but all i see is negative in my life. i am being punished for something, i just dont know what. thank you all for the talks.

unknown-ml · July 7th, 2011, 03:55 PM

oh by the way, psyhiatrist's cost a fortune to see. that is why i'm seeing a psychologist.

July 5th, 2011, 12:45 AM	#69
IRISH_EYES_99 Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: in the state of confusion :) Posts: 3,524	Dear unknown-mi, Sincerely hope that you find hope in your life. In your very exsistance. As Jennifer said, one day at a time. One moment at a time. I really believe when one door closes another one opens.. we have to be aware of that opening. Make a list of things that are right in your life. Look around with opened eyes, and an open heart. Try journaling one positive thing a day. One thing that you've accomplished just by being. Good luck I pray that you will find hope, and in hope love. __________________ Smiles are contagious. It's ok to pass them on. *

July 5th, 2011, 07:17 AM	#71
IRISH_EYES_99 Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: in the state of confusion :) Posts: 3,524	unknown-ml you're welcome. You sound so depressed. Please talk to someone who will listen to you & perhaps be able to help you face things in your life. You say you're 47, could you be going though "the change". I found that vitamin B12 + helped with the mood swings & depression. Please talk to someone you feel close too. Talking things though does help. It helps put things in order better for you. As far as dating better to get your emotions in order first, then you'll be ready to take that step with a positive look. Here is a true story a friend of my older sister got married for the 1st time at 60 yrs of age. They just celebrated their 12th aniversary. So things that are good happen at any age. You have to try & look at the positive. Try vit B12+ Hang in there & know we are here. __________________ Smiles are contagious. It's ok to pass them on. *

May 31st, 2011, 12:53 PM	#61
sistergirl Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 648	Well said Elusive. I hope unknown will make that special time for herself too. How horrible for your friend and I am sure it is effecting you as well. You sound like a great friend. Life is so fragile and that's why we need to stop and smell the roses, literally. God speed.

May 31st, 2011, 10:59 PM	#62
sistergirl Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 648	Hello unknown, I got this link from a caregiving forum, I hope you will check it out...it could prove to be helpful. http://www.fianationalnetwork.org/index.cfm

July 3rd, 2011, 05:58 PM	#63
unknown-ml Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 71	i never wanted to be a caregiver, it just got dropped in my lap, so i'm just going to do the best i can with what i have. i do wish that love had not died before i could know what it felt like.

July 3rd, 2011, 08:35 PM	#64
Jennifer23 Jennifer23 Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 3,187	Unknown, I'm not going to give you any advice. I'd just say take one day at a time.

July 3rd, 2011, 09:47 PM	#65
sistergirl Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 648	I don't think love died, I think your hope has died. How sad.

July 3rd, 2011, 10:49 PM	#66
smokey Guest Posts: n/a	Love is what you make it. If you believe its make believe that's what you will get in return. If you believe love is real, than real love you shall recieve.

July 4th, 2011, 01:23 PM	#67
georgie Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Somewhere I'd rather not be Posts: 112	Totally agree sistergirl.

July 4th, 2011, 06:29 PM	#68
unknown-ml Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 71	your right sister girl, i have no hope. anyone who has ever experience love then they have no idea how i am feeling. i am just an outsider looking in. i will be so glad when this life is over.

July 5th, 2011, 01:07 AM	#70
unknown-ml Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 71	thanks irish eyes, there are no doors or windows open. they are all locked. and i am still locked outside. i used to have hope, i got tired of all the rejections, so i gave up. i am 47 years old and ive never dated and as it stands right now, i never will.

July 5th, 2011, 01:24 PM	#72
sistergirl Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 648	ml, this earth is for everyone! That includes you. You have a right to be here on this earth just as anyone else. Is there a reason you are not in counselling with a psychiatrist? You are in a very dark place and men is not the answer. There is something else driving your thoughts. Are you going to just complain about how bad things are, or are you willing to get to a psychiatrist who may be able to help lighten the load a bit..... This place can only listen and add our own very personal thoughts...we cannot help you in the way you need help. If you don't want help then why are you here? I think you want someone to reach out and help. I also think you need to reach out to receive the help. You have choices unless of course you are locked inside a cave. You have choices.

July 5th, 2011, 06:23 PM	#73
Jennifer23 Jennifer23 Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 3,187	Unknown, Irish and Sister are right. Don't give up.

July 7th, 2011, 03:53 PM	#74
unknown-ml Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 71	i am seeing a pyhcologist and i am on anti-depressants. getting married for the first time at age 60 just does not happen. and talking to the pyhcologist is not solving anything. a man and a family is all i ever wanted in life. i wish i could see the positive but all i see is negative in my life. i am being punished for something, i just dont know what. thank you all for the talks.

July 7th, 2011, 03:55 PM	#75
unknown-ml Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 71	oh by the way, psyhiatrist's cost a fortune to see. that is why i'm seeing a psychologist.