Is love real or make believe?

unknown-ml · September 5th, 2010, 05:50 PM

Is love between a man and a woman real or make believe? Why or why not? I believe love is make believe, the only thing between man and woman is lust not love. love is blind and does not care what one looks like, lust however is all about looks. I am ugly so I don't stand a chance at being with anyone. Let me know what ya'll think.

unknown-ml · September 10th, 2010, 07:44 PM

I wish someone would respond to this so I could know what you think. I believe that love between a man and a woman is make believe, the only thing between a man and a woman is lust.

Wolf_angel · September 13th, 2010, 11:14 AM

No that isnt so. Although men in general do this below the belt. Yet I have found there is love between a man and a woman. Tis rare and hard to find but well worth it once tis found. The main problem is that most men are blind to this and stumble upon it and thus trash it at times. Not always. Hence looking for it makes it harder to find it. Hence I dont look for it anymore. I am doing what I must til the time where I can what I need to for myself. Hope this helps.

MsFlo · September 13th, 2010, 04:10 PM

To me, Lust is like a drug. The more you abuse it, the less effective it is. Lust is about the flesh and Love is about the heart. Love may not be perfect, but it is real and can be long-term and deep. Finding Love is not easy-but if found, it is worth it.

unknown-ml · September 13th, 2010, 10:13 PM

If you are pretty, love exists somewhere, but if you are like me and ugly then you dont stand a chance. so, i have given up, there is no one out there for me. thank you for your replys

MsFlo · September 16th, 2010, 11:20 PM

God loves you unknown-ml. Life is a balance of good and evil. Where there is give there has to be take. Just because someone is beautiful on the outside- doesn't mean it is all that. I know a woman who was so pretty that she couldn't walk down the street without being harrassed by men. Her bosses and mates never took her seriously and she soon loss much self-esteem avoiding men and wearing bulky clothes to hide herself. She eventually let herself go and became very fat. As unhealthy as she had become, she told me she finally was at peace with herself, since now those admired her for her mind- not her body. It is not so uncommon, since I know a man whose similar fate was the same. He was so handsome that when he walked in a room every eye was on him. Believe it or not- I saw with my own eyes that it does get old, since he seemed to hate it rather than boast in it. Last I heard- he had gained a couple hundred pounds...the irony. There's a difference between love and lust- these good-looking people were lusted after, not loved. How can you truly love someone when you can't get passed the flesh?

unknown-ml · September 17th, 2010, 06:25 PM

sorry msflo that did not help. when men see my pic and run. that does wonders for the self esteem. my self esteem is at 0, my self worth is at 0, my self confidence is at 0.

unknown-ml · September 25th, 2010, 04:15 PM

It is good to know that so many people agree with me. love is make believe

GiaBella · November 5th, 2010, 01:03 PM

Unknown I agree with you 100% when it comes to the Love. Love is just a word that describes a positive feeling towards anyone or anything in a persons life whether it be your mother, uncle, friend, car whatever. It wasn't necessarilly created for the bond between a man and a woman. It's really not a big deal being in a relationship either. I'm engaged and most of the time wish I was on my own. If I was I would be able to go wherever, and do whatever I pleased. If you really feel so ugly then do something about it. Don't dwell and cry about how you'll never find someone to lust over you. There are so many people you haven't met and wouldn't turn you down. And if you're trying to find someone online then you're not going to because all men want is a models face, big tits and a juicy ass. One thing I've learned about men (and I've been with too many) is that they all have a one track mind. Sex, food, and themselves. You'd be better off finding a woman. Love doesn't exist for men.

November 5th, 2010, 05:36 PM

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Elusive Unicorn · January 20th, 2011, 09:59 AM

Love is not something you can explain easily. There are different kinds of love. Before you can love a partner you must love yourself. This doesn't mean to be vain about your looks. No, it means to look inside yourself a love the person you are. I beleave that love is real but it is not the stuff we read about in fairy tales. If your looking for that go read a book. There are alot of good books out there. Now if your looking for love its a two way street. Lust can be one sided. When you love someone you see past all their faults. This doesn't mean you ignore them. LOL like I could. It just that you accept them for who they are faults and all. They also except who you are faolts and all. When things get bad you stick it out and lean on each other. My great aunt and great uncle were married for 50 years. Now you tell me that they didn't love each other and I will laugh in your face. Lust doesn't last over 50 plus years but love does.

unknown-ml · January 23rd, 2011, 10:45 PM

thank you elusive unicorn, my grandparents were married 50 plus years, and they did not love each other. my grandpa married my grandma on a bet and my grandma married him out of spite. she wanted to marry someone else but her dad did not approve. im too ugly to marry anyone, no matter what the reason.

Elusive Unicorn · January 23rd, 2011, 11:10 PM

What are you like on the inside unknown-ml? It doesn't matter what the package looks like. You need to think better of youself. If you are pretty on the inside it shows. I have met people who are pretty and petty on the outside. Trust me they are not all that and it shows. No matter what the movies say nice guys can finish first. Looks are just hangups that the media has trained us to beleave. I know lots of nice people that would never make a fashion rag but they are my friends. Their inner self shows. Just respect your self and the rest will fall into place. FYI me and my hubby have been married for more then 11 years now. Trust me its not lust. It is love. You do not need to like someone to love them. They say that there is a very fine line between love and hate. So according to you there is no love. But you do know that with your logic that means there is no hate. MAN HOW I DREAM OF A WORLD WITHOUT HATE!!!! There is always two sides to every coin. Love/hate, night/day, good/evil, one can not exist without the other thats just logic. So love yourself and leave the hate for someone else. Only you have the power to change the way you see you.

Jennifer23 · January 24th, 2011, 01:22 AM

Hey Unknown! Sounds to me that you don't give yourself a chance. Well, look at the movie "Dumb and Dumber", and when Jim Carey is asking the girl what the odds were of her going out with him, she says like one in a million. His response was "So, you're saying I have a chance." Guess what - so do you! And maybe with less odds.......

unknown-ml · January 31st, 2011, 11:56 PM

thank you Jennifer23 for your comment. I used to believe that there was someone for everybody and I had hope. a person can only take so much rejection. men want eye candy to hang on their arm, if I would spread my legs for them in the dark then they would take me. so, sex and lust are alive and well, love is dead. so therefore love is make believe.

September 5th, 2010, 05:50 PM	#1
unknown-ml Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 71	Is love real or make believe? Is love between a man and a woman real or make believe? Why or why not? I believe love is make believe, the only thing between man and woman is lust not love. love is blind and does not care what one looks like, lust however is all about looks. I am ugly so I don't stand a chance at being with anyone. Let me know what ya'll think.

September 13th, 2010, 11:14 AM	#3
Wolf_angel A survivor of chaos Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Where my heart is Posts: 3,147	No that isnt so. Although men in general do this below the belt. Yet I have found there is love between a man and a woman. Tis rare and hard to find but well worth it once tis found. The main problem is that most men are blind to this and stumble upon it and thus trash it at times. Not always. Hence looking for it makes it harder to find it. Hence I dont look for it anymore. I am doing what I must til the time where I can what I need to for myself. Hope this helps. __________________ May you walk in the shadow of the Great Spirit~To help others is a special gift we can either give or take~The more you give the more you receive~

January 20th, 2011, 09:59 AM	#11
Elusive Unicorn Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Utica,NY Posts: 806	Love is not something you can explain easily. There are different kinds of love. Before you can love a partner you must love yourself. This doesn't mean to be vain about your looks. No, it means to look inside yourself a love the person you are. I beleave that love is real but it is not the stuff we read about in fairy tales. If your looking for that go read a book. There are alot of good books out there. Now if your looking for love its a two way street. Lust can be one sided. When you love someone you see past all their faults. This doesn't mean you ignore them. LOL like I could. It just that you accept them for who they are faults and all. They also except who you are faolts and all. When things get bad you stick it out and lean on each other. My great aunt and great uncle were married for 50 years. Now you tell me that they didn't love each other and I will laugh in your face. Lust doesn't last over 50 plus years but love does. __________________ Any and all typos I may make are in the name of science. My tests will be conclued when ever I get around to it.

January 23rd, 2011, 11:10 PM	#13
Elusive Unicorn Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Utica,NY Posts: 806	What are you like on the inside unknown-ml? It doesn't matter what the package looks like. You need to think better of youself. If you are pretty on the inside it shows. I have met people who are pretty and petty on the outside. Trust me they are not all that and it shows. No matter what the movies say nice guys can finish first. Looks are just hangups that the media has trained us to beleave. I know lots of nice people that would never make a fashion rag but they are my friends. Their inner self shows. Just respect your self and the rest will fall into place. FYI me and my hubby have been married for more then 11 years now. Trust me its not lust. It is love. You do not need to like someone to love them. They say that there is a very fine line between love and hate. So according to you there is no love. But you do know that with your logic that means there is no hate. MAN HOW I DREAM OF A WORLD WITHOUT HATE!!!! There is always two sides to every coin. Love/hate, night/day, good/evil, one can not exist without the other thats just logic. So love yourself and leave the hate for someone else. Only you have the power to change the way you see you. __________________ Any and all typos I may make are in the name of science. My tests will be conclued when ever I get around to it.

September 10th, 2010, 07:44 PM	#2
unknown-ml Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 71	I wish someone would respond to this so I could know what you think. I believe that love between a man and a woman is make believe, the only thing between a man and a woman is lust.

September 13th, 2010, 04:10 PM	#4
MsFlo Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Suburb of Philly Posts: 6	To me, Lust is like a drug. The more you abuse it, the less effective it is. Lust is about the flesh and Love is about the heart. Love may not be perfect, but it is real and can be long-term and deep. Finding Love is not easy-but if found, it is worth it.

September 13th, 2010, 10:13 PM	#5
unknown-ml Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 71	If you are pretty, love exists somewhere, but if you are like me and ugly then you dont stand a chance. so, i have given up, there is no one out there for me. thank you for your replys

September 16th, 2010, 11:20 PM	#6
MsFlo Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Suburb of Philly Posts: 6	God loves you unknown-ml. Life is a balance of good and evil. Where there is give there has to be take. Just because someone is beautiful on the outside- doesn't mean it is all that. I know a woman who was so pretty that she couldn't walk down the street without being harrassed by men. Her bosses and mates never took her seriously and she soon loss much self-esteem avoiding men and wearing bulky clothes to hide herself. She eventually let herself go and became very fat. As unhealthy as she had become, she told me she finally was at peace with herself, since now those admired her for her mind- not her body. It is not so uncommon, since I know a man whose similar fate was the same. He was so handsome that when he walked in a room every eye was on him. Believe it or not- I saw with my own eyes that it does get old, since he seemed to hate it rather than boast in it. Last I heard- he had gained a couple hundred pounds...the irony. There's a difference between love and lust- these good-looking people were lusted after, not loved. How can you truly love someone when you can't get passed the flesh?

September 17th, 2010, 06:25 PM	#7
unknown-ml Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 71	sorry msflo that did not help. when men see my pic and run. that does wonders for the self esteem. my self esteem is at 0, my self worth is at 0, my self confidence is at 0.

September 25th, 2010, 04:15 PM	#8
unknown-ml Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 71	It is good to know that so many people agree with me. love is make believe

November 5th, 2010, 01:03 PM	#9
GiaBella Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Posts: 5	Unknown I agree with you 100% when it comes to the Love. Love is just a word that describes a positive feeling towards anyone or anything in a persons life whether it be your mother, uncle, friend, car whatever. It wasn't necessarilly created for the bond between a man and a woman. It's really not a big deal being in a relationship either. I'm engaged and most of the time wish I was on my own. If I was I would be able to go wherever, and do whatever I pleased. If you really feel so ugly then do something about it. Don't dwell and cry about how you'll never find someone to lust over you. There are so many people you haven't met and wouldn't turn you down. And if you're trying to find someone online then you're not going to because all men want is a models face, big tits and a juicy ass. One thing I've learned about men (and I've been with too many) is that they all have a one track mind. Sex, food, and themselves. You'd be better off finding a woman. Love doesn't exist for men.

November 5th, 2010, 05:36 PM	#10
mvarma_009 Guest Posts: n/a	love look, one, verify, and engage. is called as love.

January 23rd, 2011, 10:45 PM	#12
unknown-ml Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 71	thank you elusive unicorn, my grandparents were married 50 plus years, and they did not love each other. my grandpa married my grandma on a bet and my grandma married him out of spite. she wanted to marry someone else but her dad did not approve. im too ugly to marry anyone, no matter what the reason.

January 24th, 2011, 01:22 AM	#14
Jennifer23 Jennifer23 Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 3,187	Hey Unknown! Sounds to me that you don't give yourself a chance. Well, look at the movie "Dumb and Dumber", and when Jim Carey is asking the girl what the odds were of her going out with him, she says like one in a million. His response was "So, you're saying I have a chance." Guess what - so do you! And maybe with less odds.......

January 31st, 2011, 11:56 PM	#15
unknown-ml Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 71	thank you Jennifer23 for your comment. I used to believe that there was someone for everybody and I had hope. a person can only take so much rejection. men want eye candy to hang on their arm, if I would spread my legs for them in the dark then they would take me. so, sex and lust are alive and well, love is dead. so therefore love is make believe.