No sex desire or Drive help help help

talleyriles · March 19th, 2002, 05:56 PM

PLEASE HELP ME INCREASE MY SEX DESIRE AND DRIVE

I AM ONLY 25 AND I LOVE MY HUSBAND VERY MUCH AND FIND HIM VERY ATTRACTIVE I JUST HAVE NO SEX DESIRE OR DRIVE. THERE HAS TO BE SOME KIND OF HERB OR MEDICATION OR SOMETHING IN THIS BIG WORLD TO HELP ME... SOMEONE PLEASE EMAIL ME AND HELP ME AND MY MARRIAGE..

smcguigan@iafrate.com

talleyriles · March 19th, 2002, 05:59 PM

please help me increase my sex desire and drive.........

There has to be some kind of herb or medication or something in this big world to help me increase my sex drive and desire for me .. I am only 25..
and i am very happy with my marriage..
please help.

email:
smcguigan@iafrate.com

talleyriles · March 19th, 2002, 06:02 PM

I need someone to help me find something to increase my sex drive. There has got to be some kind of herb or something out there in the world to give me the desire to have sex with my husband again. I am only 25 and i am very attracted to my husband, just no desire for sex with anyone.....
Help!!
email me at
smcguigan@iafrate.comHELP No sex DRIVE or Desire, HELP!

Need to increase my sex desire and drive.....

November 5th, 2002, 07:08 PM

u can go to a naughty shop tho spice things up for you and your husband

mandeley · March 14th, 2003, 04:45 AM

Hi there tally. I wanted to mail you, but my subscriber is currently off. So anyway, haven't forgotten about you, will mail you as soon as I can get hooked. I really need to tell you something and I hope it will help you.

Cod · March 14th, 2003, 10:53 AM

hmmmm....looks like your multi-postasmic anyway.

MintyFemme2 · October 26th, 2004, 10:44 AM

OMG Cod to funny

Cod · October 26th, 2004, 10:55 AM

LOL Minty. I was like "huh??" That was a LONG time ago, eh? I guess it's too late to edit and change that "your" to "you're". Oh well, old mistakes come back to HAUNT one!

January 23rd, 2006, 02:26 PM

Honestly girls there is not herb or pill to help unless there is an actual physical reason your body isnt getting in the mood.

For most women its a relationship issue, and not necessarily a bad issue or trouble in the marriage, often its just a communication thing.

Men are mechanical and can be turned on with sight or just the inuendo there may be sex happening.

Us gals however are slow cookers and need to be 'turned on' with touch, sight, smell and sound. And with all that if our guys don't understand that there is frustrations and lack of desire.

The one poster mentioned going to a naughty shop...if you both agree on those products they can help..thats why I am in the biz I am in...it works!

Also...I have found a man who actually listens to me and what I need in the bedroom and he actually acts on it! Woo Hoo...

LadyDiva

LiamFan! · January 23rd, 2006, 10:46 PM

Seems like an awful big generalization to me, that "men are mechanical" and "women are slow cookers." I can think of lots of exceptions.

MintyFemme2 · January 27th, 2006, 10:31 AM

Hmm "sloww cookers" and "mechanical men". ((((((((((((((LIAM))))))) hey you!

Cod · January 27th, 2006, 11:18 AM

how about "hot pots" and "roto rooters"?

Wolf_angel · February 8th, 2006, 09:12 PM

As far as men being mechanical...they aren't its just the way some are...that a visual thing gets their motors running where as women being slow cookers.....well not all of us are. However a lack of communication can happen and sometimes for reasons unknown to us...some of our internal clocks change. Which means if you are lucky and able to discuss this with your sweetie then you will have good sex. Then again sometimes you need to get your imagination in use. LOL That is fun. Take time out to enjoy each other without sex and then if you still havent reached your usual level of enjoyment then you need to re-explore each other like you were dating again. That is fun too

Either way you both will win in the long run.
Have a great day!

November 24th, 2008, 12:06 PM

Your problem looks exactly like mine, but i still don't know the answer...my man is cooperative in talking and setting the mood for me..but still its not happening.I just don't know what to do?

Sassysam · February 23rd, 2012, 06:32 PM

I would estimate but your first three posts you're high strung or a panicker... That might be hindering your arousal. You need to calm down, sometimes by putting so much emphasis on sex it makes it too serious or gives you really high standards for pleasure and the reality is life is nothing like the movies.

What to do? I have a few ideas. I'm not saying I'm the expert but you asked so i am helping. Try a vibrator to get yourself in the mood. Try some female friendly resource such as theadulttoyshop for this. When you enjoy the sexual stimulation and your natural vaginal lubricant gets flowing, it will also get your hormones flowing too. You see I am an erotica author and when I need to get myself in the mood I draw a hot bath and bring in a vibrator (please make sure it's waterproof!!) and the act of bringing myself to an orgasm releases all negative pent up energy.

It's not about the act of having the orgasm, you're trying to seduce yourself - think of it as individual foreplay. The more relaxed you can be and aroused you are, this will carry over to when your husband comes into the bedroom - you'll be physically and emotionally ready and willing to enjoy passionate lovemaking with him.

March 19th, 2002, 05:56 PM	#1
talleyriles Registered User Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: louisiana Posts: 3	No sex desire or Drive help help help PLEASE HELP ME INCREASE MY SEX DESIRE AND DRIVE I AM ONLY 25 AND I LOVE MY HUSBAND VERY MUCH AND FIND HIM VERY ATTRACTIVE I JUST HAVE NO SEX DESIRE OR DRIVE. THERE HAS TO BE SOME KIND OF HERB OR MEDICATION OR SOMETHING IN THIS BIG WORLD TO HELP ME... SOMEONE PLEASE EMAIL ME AND HELP ME AND MY MARRIAGE.. smcguigan@iafrate.com

March 19th, 2002, 05:59 PM	#2
talleyriles Registered User Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: louisiana Posts: 3	No sex desire or Drive help help help please help me increase my sex desire and drive......... There has to be some kind of herb or medication or something in this big world to help me increase my sex drive and desire for me .. I am only 25.. and i am very happy with my marriage.. please help. email: smcguigan@iafrate.com

March 19th, 2002, 06:02 PM	#3
talleyriles Registered User Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: louisiana Posts: 3	need to increase my sex desire and drive I need someone to help me find something to increase my sex drive. There has got to be some kind of herb or something out there in the world to give me the desire to have sex with my husband again. I am only 25 and i am very attracted to my husband, just no desire for sex with anyone..... Help!! email me at smcguigan@iafrate.comHELP No sex DRIVE or Desire, HELP! Need to increase my sex desire and drive.....

October 26th, 2004, 10:44 AM	#7
MintyFemme2 Registered User Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: CA Posts: 571	OMG Cod to funny __________________ " Life is what you make of it"

January 23rd, 2006, 02:26 PM	#9
ladydiva Guest Posts: n/a	My 2 cents... Honestly girls there is not herb or pill to help unless there is an actual physical reason your body isnt getting in the mood. For most women its a relationship issue, and not necessarily a bad issue or trouble in the marriage, often its just a communication thing. Men are mechanical and can be turned on with sight or just the inuendo there may be sex happening. Us gals however are slow cookers and need to be 'turned on' with touch, sight, smell and sound. And with all that if our guys don't understand that there is frustrations and lack of desire. The one poster mentioned going to a naughty shop...if you both agree on those products they can help..thats why I am in the biz I am in...it works! Also...I have found a man who actually listens to me and what I need in the bedroom and he actually acts on it! Woo Hoo... LadyDiva

November 5th, 2002, 07:08 PM	#4
dreka Guest Posts: n/a	u can go to a naughty shop tho spice things up for you and your husband

March 14th, 2003, 04:45 AM	#5
mandeley Registered User Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Pretoria Posts: 4	Hi there tally. I wanted to mail you, but my subscriber is currently off. So anyway, haven't forgotten about you, will mail you as soon as I can get hooked. I really need to tell you something and I hope it will help you.

March 14th, 2003, 10:53 AM	#6
Cod Hooked on The OC! Join Date: Mar 2001 Posts: 1,252	hmmmm....looks like your multi-postasmic anyway.

October 26th, 2004, 10:55 AM	#8
Cod Hooked on The OC! Join Date: Mar 2001 Posts: 1,252	LOL Minty. I was like "huh??" That was a LONG time ago, eh? I guess it's too late to edit and change that "your" to "you're". Oh well, old mistakes come back to HAUNT one!

January 23rd, 2006, 10:46 PM	#10
LiamFan! Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 2,048	Seems like an awful big generalization to me, that "men are mechanical" and "women are slow cookers." I can think of lots of exceptions. __________________ Love is never defeated, and I could add, the history of Ireland proves it. -- Pope John Paul II

January 27th, 2006, 10:31 AM	#11
MintyFemme2 Registered User Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: CA Posts: 571	Hmm "sloww cookers" and "mechanical men". ((((((((((((((LIAM))))))) hey you! __________________ " Life is what you make of it"

January 27th, 2006, 11:18 AM	#12
Cod Hooked on The OC! Join Date: Mar 2001 Posts: 1,252	how about "hot pots" and "roto rooters"?

February 8th, 2006, 09:12 PM	#13
Wolf_angel A survivor of chaos Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Where my heart is Posts: 3,147	Well this is my two cents worth As far as men being mechanical...they aren't its just the way some are...that a visual thing gets their motors running where as women being slow cookers.....well not all of us are. However a lack of communication can happen and sometimes for reasons unknown to us...some of our internal clocks change. Which means if you are lucky and able to discuss this with your sweetie then you will have good sex. Then again sometimes you need to get your imagination in use. LOL That is fun. Take time out to enjoy each other without sex and then if you still havent reached your usual level of enjoyment then you need to re-explore each other like you were dating again. That is fun too Either way you both will win in the long run. Have a great day! __________________ May you walk in the shadow of the Great Spirit~To help others is a special gift we can either give or take~The more you give the more you receive~

November 24th, 2008, 12:06 PM	#14
iris mathew Guest Posts: n/a	Your problem looks exactly like mine, but i still don't know the answer...my man is cooperative in talking and setting the mood for me..but still its not happening.I just don't know what to do?

February 23rd, 2012, 06:32 PM	#15
Sassysam Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 35	I would estimate but your first three posts you're high strung or a panicker... That might be hindering your arousal. You need to calm down, sometimes by putting so much emphasis on sex it makes it too serious or gives you really high standards for pleasure and the reality is life is nothing like the movies. What to do? I have a few ideas. I'm not saying I'm the expert but you asked so i am helping. Try a vibrator to get yourself in the mood. Try some female friendly resource such as theadulttoyshop for this. When you enjoy the sexual stimulation and your natural vaginal lubricant gets flowing, it will also get your hormones flowing too. You see I am an erotica author and when I need to get myself in the mood I draw a hot bath and bring in a vibrator (please make sure it's waterproof!!) and the act of bringing myself to an orgasm releases all negative pent up energy. It's not about the act of having the orgasm, you're trying to seduce yourself - think of it as individual foreplay. The more relaxed you can be and aroused you are, this will carry over to when your husband comes into the bedroom - you'll be physically and emotionally ready and willing to enjoy passionate lovemaking with him. __________________ Geminis rule!