Online Friendships - Page 2

March 17th, 2001, 12:39 AM

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Originally posted by mauka
but where is ...

yaa i am a Bangladeshi i am looking .....

tupi · March 20th, 2001, 02:49 PM

Looking? I don't think I want to go there....

I've noticed that lots of people take online relationships so seriously that they forget that the person could still be lying through their teeth or fingertips as the case may be. I don't want to be a downer, but I've seen people pretend to be female when they weren't, pretend to be pregnant, pretend to ill, pretend to be friends, even. Over a period of time the truth will out, but even then we never truly know someone online until we've met them or at the very least talked to them on the phone and that's not totally reliable. All we know is what they tell us, and it could all be a story line they are feeding us. I'm not so jaded that I don't ever believe people, but I genuinely worry about people falling for sob stories. Playing on someone's feelings is a rotten joke; falling for a sob story is a cruel awakening.

MommaD · March 20th, 2001, 07:57 PM

Having seen many of the same things you have, tupi, I find that I don't take much of anything at face value any more. I even tend to question the stories people tell me in real life. It's an interesting result of my time on-line.

tupi · March 22nd, 2001, 07:32 PM

Well, it's a realistic lesson though, too, MommaD. I'm a little less likely to fall for a sad tale than I once was. I know an attention seeker when I meet one, now. My online friendships...the real ones...are just such a warm cozy feeling for me though. I like knowing I could travel and meet friends all over the place. Online makes the world a smaller place and brings to us the opportunity to share so much more than just the images TV and movies portray. That's a great thing!

On the other hand, I just can't get it when someone leaves home because they fell in love with someone online. That is just about the dumbest thing I ever heard of.

susieB28 · March 24th, 2001, 10:53 PM

I feel fortunate to have made some great online friends. While I enjoy chatting with everyone in WS, there are some folks that I truly consider "friends". I have never met a roomie face to face yet, but have spoken to some on the phone. Love this room, and would love to meet some of you dynamic women!

roo · April 27th, 2001, 10:10 PM

I personally enjoyed the creativity of the person (married, middle-aged woman in brisbane AU, 3 kids pretending to be a lesbian 20ish, in Syndey) who was dying of cancer. The twist was that she prepped the chat room for a mmonth about how sad it was her parents and only sibling died in a car wreck when she was 17. Anyway her "doctor" sat online while "she died" relaying messages to her that people typed. There was no stopping the drama... people like drama. People like a tear jerker. Some people had actually bought a ticket to Sydney to go see this kid.

On the other hand, my best friend I met online. Three of my closest friends I met online. We weave in and out of each other's lives through chat, email, posting here, and phone calls (and even.... gasp..... snail mail!) Getting email from them makes me smile and brightens my day. They are a part of my world.

I don't have the energy to disbelieve everyone or "test" them. I take them on face value. First time I see something weird, that's it. I just don't have timme for that crap.

shergo · May 21st, 2001, 09:45 PM

While we do have to be careful, I have met some of my closest friends online through a group of old house owners who started out at Old House Journal and migrated to OldHouseForums.com. I get together with some of these people at least once a month (in fact, we're celebrating my new job this coming weekend), and several others I have been with at least a couple of times a year. I look forward to meeting the others in person. We have been together for five years, and in that time, it has become apparent that these people aren't pretending to be something or someone else. We have a couple of times had people who weren't "right," and it was apparent after awhile.

Now the date I had last week was another story. :-(

arsenic1 · August 26th, 2001, 07:37 PM

this is the first time i have checked out this website, and i have to say, it is a breath of freash air.

I have many online friends, and really enjoy recieving emails. The great thing about online friends is that you are able to be more honesty about yourself, well i am. I am far from stupid, i don't believe everything i am told online. The secret to having a good online friend is to be yourself, and if they are pretending to be something they are not it eventually come out, and as long as you understand that there could be something dark behind there messages at all times, you will remain safe.

janie · January 21st, 2002, 04:41 PM

I would love to meet some new friends please who will talk to me

buggaboo · January 21st, 2002, 05:28 PM

Janie, there are two messages for you in "tell us about yourself". I will watch out for your name on the boards.

{{{{{{{Janie}}}}}}}

tupi · January 22nd, 2002, 08:35 AM

Hi Janie, this is a good place to start making friends!

Sunshine · April 19th, 2002, 11:45 PM

You know? Tonight, I got really offended in the womenspace room that I was in due to a comment that was made. Someone had simply requested that people in the room only speak english. Due to the name of the site, women online worldwide, I expected the room to be a bit more open to another language, but it didn't seem to be. It was hurtful to me, because my best friend is from another country and speaks very little english fluently, and I would like her to have the opportunity to come to this place to chat. I guess, what I was really feeling, when I voiced my opinion, was that I was hurt. I do apologize to anyone, who felt offended by my abruptness, at the same time, I don't want my point to be unnoticed. Sunshine!

Sunshine · April 21st, 2002, 01:39 PM

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Originally posted by janie
I would love to meet some new friends please who will talk to me

Janie, you are definately in the right place to meet new friends. This is a great place. Sunshine PS Hugs! And hi everyone!

~Hummingbird~ · April 29th, 2002, 12:48 PM

I have personally met about 10 of my online friends over about the past 5 years and some of them have been to my home and I have been to their homes also. I most definately think you can have lifelong friendships with those you meet online....saying that I think you have to be very careful and take your time with those you allow into your life just as you would in the 3d world to start with.

Netchatter · April 29th, 2002, 01:55 PM

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Originally posted by Tammy
There's a big difference between "going to chat rooms" and the kind of interactions that come from becoming part of a community.

I totally agree. I have made several really good friends online. You really do get to know someone if you are observant about how they interact with all different sorts of people.

March 24th, 2001, 10:53 PM	#20
susieB28 Registered User Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Canada Posts: 157	I feel fortunate to have made some great online friends. While I enjoy chatting with everyone in WS, there are some folks that I truly consider "friends". I have never met a roomie face to face yet, but have spoken to some on the phone. Love this room, and would love to meet some of you dynamic women! __________________ Today's mighty oak is just yesterday's nut, that held it's ground...

April 27th, 2001, 10:10 PM	#21
roo Registered User Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 555	I personally enjoyed the creativity of the person (married, middle-aged woman in brisbane AU, 3 kids pretending to be a lesbian 20ish, in Syndey) who was dying of cancer. The twist was that she prepped the chat room for a mmonth about how sad it was her parents and only sibling died in a car wreck when she was 17. Anyway her "doctor" sat online while "she died" relaying messages to her that people typed. There was no stopping the drama... people like drama. People like a tear jerker. Some people had actually bought a ticket to Sydney to go see this kid. On the other hand, my best friend I met online. Three of my closest friends I met online. We weave in and out of each other's lives through chat, email, posting here, and phone calls (and even.... gasp..... snail mail!) Getting email from them makes me smile and brightens my day. They are a part of my world. I don't have the energy to disbelieve everyone or "test" them. I take them on face value. First time I see something weird, that's it. I just don't have timme for that crap. __________________ "Life is sweet / in spite of the misery / life is short, so be grateful." ~ Natalie Merchant

May 21st, 2001, 09:45 PM	#22
shergo Registered User Join Date: Apr 2001 Location: Danville, VA Posts: 46	While we do have to be careful, I have met some of my closest friends online through a group of old house owners who started out at Old House Journal and migrated to OldHouseForums.com. I get together with some of these people at least once a month (in fact, we're celebrating my new job this coming weekend), and several others I have been with at least a couple of times a year. I look forward to meeting the others in person. We have been together for five years, and in that time, it has become apparent that these people aren't pretending to be something or someone else. We have a couple of times had people who weren't "right," and it was apparent after awhile. Now the date I had last week was another story. :-( __________________ shergo

August 26th, 2001, 07:37 PM	#23
arsenic1 Registered User Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: cambridgeshire Posts: 2	friendships this is the first time i have checked out this website, and i have to say, it is a breath of freash air. I have many online friends, and really enjoy recieving emails. The great thing about online friends is that you are able to be more honesty about yourself, well i am. I am far from stupid, i don't believe everything i am told online. The secret to having a good online friend is to be yourself, and if they are pretending to be something they are not it eventually come out, and as long as you understand that there could be something dark behind there messages at all times, you will remain safe.

January 21st, 2002, 04:41 PM	#24
janie Registered User Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: Mo. Posts: 3	friends I would love to meet some new friends please who will talk to me

March 20th, 2001, 02:49 PM	#17
tupi Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 144	Looking? I don't think I want to go there.... I've noticed that lots of people take online relationships so seriously that they forget that the person could still be lying through their teeth or fingertips as the case may be. I don't want to be a downer, but I've seen people pretend to be female when they weren't, pretend to be pregnant, pretend to ill, pretend to be friends, even. Over a period of time the truth will out, but even then we never truly know someone online until we've met them or at the very least talked to them on the phone and that's not totally reliable. All we know is what they tell us, and it could all be a story line they are feeding us. I'm not so jaded that I don't ever believe people, but I genuinely worry about people falling for sob stories. Playing on someone's feelings is a rotten joke; falling for a sob story is a cruel awakening.

March 20th, 2001, 07:57 PM	#18
MommaD Registered User Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 57	Having seen many of the same things you have, tupi, I find that I don't take much of anything at face value any more. I even tend to question the stories people tell me in real life. It's an interesting result of my time on-line.

March 22nd, 2001, 07:32 PM	#19
tupi Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 144	Well, it's a realistic lesson though, too, MommaD. I'm a little less likely to fall for a sad tale than I once was. I know an attention seeker when I meet one, now. My online friendships...the real ones...are just such a warm cozy feeling for me though. I like knowing I could travel and meet friends all over the place. Online makes the world a smaller place and brings to us the opportunity to share so much more than just the images TV and movies portray. That's a great thing! On the other hand, I just can't get it when someone leaves home because they fell in love with someone online. That is just about the dumbest thing I ever heard of.

January 21st, 2002, 05:28 PM	#25
buggaboo Registered User Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: Australia Posts: 173	Janie, there are two messages for you in "tell us about yourself". I will watch out for your name on the boards. {{{{{{{Janie}}}}}}} __________________ LIVE, LAUGH, LOVE AND BE HAPPY

January 22nd, 2002, 08:35 AM	#26
tupi Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 144	Hi Janie, this is a good place to start making friends!

April 19th, 2002, 11:45 PM	#27
Sunshine Let the sunshine in! Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: Mesa, Arizona Posts: 79	You know? Tonight, I got really offended in the womenspace room that I was in due to a comment that was made. Someone had simply requested that people in the room only speak english. Due to the name of the site, women online worldwide, I expected the room to be a bit more open to another language, but it didn't seem to be. It was hurtful to me, because my best friend is from another country and speaks very little english fluently, and I would like her to have the opportunity to come to this place to chat. I guess, what I was really feeling, when I voiced my opinion, was that I was hurt. I do apologize to anyone, who felt offended by my abruptness, at the same time, I don't want my point to be unnoticed. Sunshine!

April 29th, 2002, 12:48 PM	#29
~Hummingbird~ Registered User Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: USA Posts: 15	I have personally met about 10 of my online friends over about the past 5 years and some of them have been to my home and I have been to their homes also. I most definately think you can have lifelong friendships with those you meet online....saying that I think you have to be very careful and take your time with those you allow into your life just as you would in the 3d world to start with.