Online Friendships

ShadowWOW · January 13th, 2001, 12:18 AM

Computers have made it possible to connect with so many people whose paths we may never have crossed otherwise. I met some of my best friends online. How about you?

mauka · February 25th, 2001, 05:27 PM

this works... I like it cause it sends an email message that says ( basically) "You have mail" and has a thingie to click that takes me there.

mauka · February 25th, 2001, 08:16 PM

how do we post with the message icons?

I don't see them!

mauka · February 25th, 2001, 08:17 PM

but where is ...

shalomwow · February 25th, 2001, 09:18 PM

Shadow,I have met 54 friends online so far.This is a great way to meet people. I love it here and I love hosting.

Blaise · February 25th, 2001, 10:36 PM

Is this it? Am I here? Is this the here? Where I'm supposed to be?

Well, where is she?

She said . . .

mauka? you seen her?

are you whistling?

LiamFan! · February 25th, 2001, 10:46 PM

Some people think that friendships online aren't as legitimate as 3D friendships, but I think the written word is sometimes more powerful than the spoken word.

I also think that people can get in too deep, too quickly, when it comes to online relationships. People who know you online don't know all the grubby details that go with everyday life, and I think it's easy to idealize someone you know online.

Terri · February 26th, 2001, 12:03 AM

tweet tweet tweet tweet tweet tweet tweet tweet

Where is yada is this it? I see mauka and Blaise now where is the other one?

Tammy · February 26th, 2001, 01:36 AM

One of the things I notice about "meeting" people online is that I don't forget things about them, so I usually know a lot more in a lot less time.

Part of it is the way my brain holds information. I tend to remember just about everything that I read (which can be a curse some days

) but if someone SAYS something to me, it'll go right out of my head.

One of the things I've found about people who "illegitimize" online friendships is that they've never really had any.

There's a big difference between "going to chat rooms" and the kind of interactions that come from becoming part of a community.

Yadax3 · February 26th, 2001, 04:48 AM

Well, I WAS here earlier, I have no idea what happened to my sod cabin. I did mention it was a wee bit damp, and the cabin probably turned into a pile of mud.

Ah well. I am wearing the socks I got for my birthday tonite at work. The ones with the pink spacegirl on them.

QuietWoman · February 26th, 2001, 05:37 AM

Hi, Yada, Tammy, Terri, Blaise, LiamFan, Mauka ...

I agree with Liam that folk can get in way too deep with online friendships, way too soon. Having said that, however, I do think that online creates that possibility. There are a whole set of issues that go with the "it doesn't matter son much, it's only an online friendship" thing. And one of those is the idea that you can risk whatever you want because it's *only online* and no harm can come.

mauka · February 27th, 2001, 12:29 AM

aloha... Tammy... I don't remember much written or spoken... so it helps to be able to refer back to the written words.

yaddie I thought you were saying you had spaghetti socks and I wondered what those might look like.

Sooo is there on big cabin with a big stone fireplace in the main room? I hope it's decorated with purple furniture.

I read DonnaWOW's last Tapestry article last night... sniff, sniff...parting is like when calla lilies are in bloom. Chris is a wonderful human being... that I never get to see anymore.

Stophie · March 1st, 2001, 07:50 AM

I put a post on here and it is gone
Did I say something bad? I didn't mean to if I did

Stophie · March 1st, 2001, 08:13 AM

lol oopsy I found the post I thot disappeared...it is under another heading. I got confuzid

tupi · March 1st, 2001, 06:08 PM

Confused works. I've done that before, and it worked.

Online friendships are unique. It's a whole new social stratum, similar to pen pals, I guess. In an online friendship you can pick and chose what you wish to share. You can present yourself in a manner more appealing to your own vision of who you are, but the fact is the real you will eventually come out. Like LiamFan I've heard it said that online friendships aren't the same as 3D, but in truth they can be.

I thank every day that I met Terri. I believe we were destined to meet. She's like finding one of my own sisters.

February 25th, 2001, 05:27 PM	#2
mauka daydreamer Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 65	very nice this works... I like it cause it sends an email message that says ( basically) "You have mail" and has a thingie to click that takes me there.

February 25th, 2001, 08:16 PM	#3
mauka daydreamer Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 65	where is everyone? how do we post with the message icons? I don't see them! __________________ intuition is...

February 25th, 2001, 08:17 PM	#4
mauka daydreamer Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 65	I see but where is ...

February 25th, 2001, 09:18 PM	#5
shalomwow Guest Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Wilmington,Delaware Posts: 11	Wonderful Shadow,I have met 54 friends online so far.This is a great way to meet people. I love it here and I love hosting.

February 25th, 2001, 10:36 PM	#6
Blaise Registered User Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 2	Am I here? Is this it? Am I here? Is this the here? Where I'm supposed to be? Well, where is she? She said . . . mauka? you seen her? are you whistling?

January 13th, 2001, 12:18 AM	#1
ShadowWOW Guest Join Date: Jan 2001 Posts: 23	Computers have made it possible to connect with so many people whose paths we may never have crossed otherwise. I met some of my best friends online. How about you?

February 25th, 2001, 10:46 PM	#7
LiamFan! Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 2,048	Some people think that friendships online aren't as legitimate as 3D friendships, but I think the written word is sometimes more powerful than the spoken word. I also think that people can get in too deep, too quickly, when it comes to online relationships. People who know you online don't know all the grubby details that go with everyday life, and I think it's easy to idealize someone you know online. __________________ Love is never defeated, and I could add, the history of Ireland proves it. -- Pope John Paul II

February 26th, 2001, 12:03 AM	#8
Terri Registered User Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Florida Posts: 382	tweet tweet tweet tweet tweet tweet tweet tweet Where is yada is this it? I see mauka and Blaise now where is the other one? __________________ Let words touch wisdom teeth on way through mouth (Confucious)

February 26th, 2001, 01:36 AM	#9
Tammy Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 143	About the written word.. One of the things I notice about "meeting" people online is that I don't forget things about them, so I usually know a lot more in a lot less time. Part of it is the way my brain holds information. I tend to remember just about everything that I read (which can be a curse some days ) but if someone SAYS something to me, it'll go right out of my head. One of the things I've found about people who "illegitimize" online friendships is that they've never really had any. There's a big difference between "going to chat rooms" and the kind of interactions that come from becoming part of a community.

February 26th, 2001, 04:48 AM	#10
Yadax3 Registered User Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 5	What happened to my Cabin? Well, I WAS here earlier, I have no idea what happened to my sod cabin. I did mention it was a wee bit damp, and the cabin probably turned into a pile of mud. Ah well. I am wearing the socks I got for my birthday tonite at work. The ones with the pink spacegirl on them.

February 26th, 2001, 05:37 AM	#11
QuietWoman Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Sunny England! Posts: 278	Hi, Yada, Tammy, Terri, Blaise, LiamFan, Mauka ... I agree with Liam that folk can get in way too deep with online friendships, way too soon. Having said that, however, I do think that online creates that possibility. There are a whole set of issues that go with the "it doesn't matter son much, it's only an online friendship" thing. And one of those is the idea that you can risk whatever you want because it's only online and no harm can come.

February 27th, 2001, 12:29 AM	#12
mauka daydreamer Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 65	memeory aloha... Tammy... I don't remember much written or spoken... so it helps to be able to refer back to the written words. yaddie I thought you were saying you had spaghetti socks and I wondered what those might look like. Sooo is there on big cabin with a big stone fireplace in the main room? I hope it's decorated with purple furniture. I read DonnaWOW's last Tapestry article last night... sniff, sniff...parting is like when calla lilies are in bloom. Chris is a wonderful human being... that I never get to see anymore.

March 1st, 2001, 07:50 AM	#13
Stophie Registered User Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Tennessee Posts: 42	what happened? I put a post on here and it is gone Did I say something bad? I didn't mean to if I did

March 1st, 2001, 08:13 AM	#14
Stophie Registered User Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Tennessee Posts: 42	lol oopsy I found the post I thot disappeared...it is under another heading. I got confuzid

March 1st, 2001, 06:08 PM	#15
tupi Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Posts: 144	Confused works. I've done that before, and it worked. Online friendships are unique. It's a whole new social stratum, similar to pen pals, I guess. In an online friendship you can pick and chose what you wish to share. You can present yourself in a manner more appealing to your own vision of who you are, but the fact is the real you will eventually come out. Like LiamFan I've heard it said that online friendships aren't the same as 3D, but in truth they can be. I thank every day that I met Terri. I believe we were destined to meet. She's like finding one of my own sisters.