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October 16th, 2012, 06:52 AM
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well i would like your opinion...
Hi! I'm kalynn, I'm still figuring out how to do this. My story begins... ive been married 24 yrs. He has always been emotionally distant..
3 yrs ago I had lunch w an old girlfriend from college... and wow did I feel such an attraction... I wasn't sure how she would feel, as she is also married..(and to a minister)....  so I told her how I felt. She says nooo.. that she has had "same sex attractions".... but has been to counseling.. its all in her past... I'm like ur gay!! Omg!! And she feels it is a sin.. etc.. all this time?? We were a couple in college..20+ yrs ago! we have been seeing each other on and off (mostly off now) for 3.5 yrs.. she lives several States away so it is hard... and the best sex ever in my life..... She struggles because of commitment to husband and church and the "sin" aspect... I am of the opinion that she is just gay.. no sin.. just facts. I am also an atheist. any thoughts?? |
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October 19th, 2012, 07:24 PM
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Jennifer23
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Hi Kalynn. I believe in God. Also, I believe that God created everyone whether gay or straight. I personally don't consider being gay as a sin.
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October 19th, 2012, 08:20 PM
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I think the only reason you being an atheist would have any relevance would be that it might possibly be more difficult for you to understand her point of view.
Honestly, I think she's just scared. It's very difficult sometimes to overcome what's been drilled into your head. Even when it's the free-est that you've ever felt in your life it's extremely hard to justify to yourself that what you feel is okay. And it has to be doubly hard to be married to a minister. I don't know you, or how you grew up... but I came from a very strict Christian family and it took me a long time to realize that it was okay to feel the things that I felt. Good luck to you, in your situation.
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October 21st, 2012, 06:01 AM
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You have been seeing each other for ....what.....three and a half years and she is still "struggling" with her christian belief that gay is not good. Please! Sorry, I think you need to ask her to step up. She truly has the best of both worlds, stable home life and a "bit on the side". I think patience is required if you want to continue in this relationship.
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October 22nd, 2012, 08:47 AM
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Really I feel like she has had every opportunity to come out... She is afraid her children will hate her, they have taught them that homosexuality is a sin. It just feels like such a waste to me.. Like her life will never b as intended. It makes it hard for me to quit waiting. But in a large part I know I need to just forget about it.
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October 23rd, 2012, 08:11 PM
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Jennifer23
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Kalynn, in the end it has to be her decision.
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October 24th, 2012, 08:38 AM
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A survivor of chaos
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Agreeing with Jennifer!
Have a great day! 
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