My 7 year old

May 8th, 2007, 01:59 AM

I am having a problem with my 7 year old. It did not start until AFTER I had my 7 month old. My 7 year old will get very I mean very angry with me. He is acting out in school, he doesn't listen to anyone at home exept his dad. I feel like I have failed him some how. He told me he hated me yesterday and that tore my heart out. All I could do was get on my knees' and tell him I loved him. If anyone can give me some advice, I would appreciate it.

IRISH_EYES_99 · May 9th, 2007, 10:25 AM

Hi Rookie Rose welcome.

Your 7 yr old has had the rule of the roost. Maybe given him some alone time with you would be good.

Let him help feed the baby, or read to the baby. Babies love to be read to.

Your 7 yr old needs to know his place isn't gone. He misses that time. The baby is invading his home. ( not really) At least that is probably the way he is seeing it.

Ask relatives or friends who come to see the new baby to mention what a wonderful big brother the baby has. Isn't the baby lucky to have him. He needs to be a part, and feel that he's a part of the process.

My oldest is 7 years older than the 2nd one. They need to feel important in the family. Now they are the best of friends. It does work out. Really.

Don't let the anger he feels fester.

Have him talk it out.
Give him an extra job that is just for him.
Let him help plan a meal, or something the whole family can do.
While the baby is sleeping play a board game, or just talk to him.
He needs that "YOU" time too.

Good luck to all.

Come back in let us know how it's going.

DACDjr · May 9th, 2007, 10:45 AM

(((((((( Irish )))))))))))

ty for replying..

Davie and I do have "our time" We are together more than the baby and I.. David was suspended from school yesterday for calling his teacher a not nice name

I can't help but to think I am at fault for how he is acting. I hope and pray it will get better soon.

Thanks Irish
and good to see you!

IRISH_EYES_99 · May 9th, 2007, 10:40 PM

(((((((((((( DACDJr and kidlets ))))))))))))))),

Awww poor kid. You're a good mom, I know you are. ((((((((((( extra hugs for whenever you need them ))))))))))))))))) Your little man is growing up, so cute. Give him time. Have him talk to you, or to a counseler at school. Keep in touch.

May 8th, 2007, 01:59 AM	#1
RookieRose Guest Posts: n/a	My 7 year old I am having a problem with my 7 year old. It did not start until AFTER I had my 7 month old. My 7 year old will get very I mean very angry with me. He is acting out in school, he doesn't listen to anyone at home exept his dad. I feel like I have failed him some how. He told me he hated me yesterday and that tore my heart out. All I could do was get on my knees' and tell him I loved him. If anyone can give me some advice, I would appreciate it.

May 9th, 2007, 10:25 AM	#2
IRISH_EYES_99 Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: in the state of confusion :) Posts: 3,524	Hi Rookie Rose welcome. Your 7 yr old has had the rule of the roost. Maybe given him some alone time with you would be good. Let him help feed the baby, or read to the baby. Babies love to be read to. Your 7 yr old needs to know his place isn't gone. He misses that time. The baby is invading his home. ( not really) At least that is probably the way he is seeing it. Ask relatives or friends who come to see the new baby to mention what a wonderful big brother the baby has. Isn't the baby lucky to have him. He needs to be a part, and feel that he's a part of the process. My oldest is 7 years older than the 2nd one. They need to feel important in the family. Now they are the best of friends. It does work out. Really. Don't let the anger he feels fester. Have him talk it out. Give him an extra job that is just for him. Let him help plan a meal, or something the whole family can do. While the baby is sleeping play a board game, or just talk to him. He needs that "YOU" time too. Good luck to all. Come back in let us know how it's going. __________________ Smiles are contagious. It's ok to pass them on. *

May 9th, 2007, 10:45 AM	#3
DACDjr Senior Memeber Join Date: May 2001 Location: Indiana Posts: 864	(((((((( Irish ))))))))))) ty for replying.. Davie and I do have "our time" We are together more than the baby and I.. David was suspended from school yesterday for calling his teacher a not nice name I can't help but to think I am at fault for how he is acting. I hope and pray it will get better soon. Thanks Irish and good to see you! __________________ KAP-AJS

May 9th, 2007, 10:40 PM	#4
IRISH_EYES_99 Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: in the state of confusion :) Posts: 3,524	(((((((((((( DACDJr and kidlets ))))))))))))))), Awww poor kid. You're a good mom, I know you are. ((((((((((( extra hugs for whenever you need them ))))))))))))))))) Your little man is growing up, so cute. Give him time. Have him talk to you, or to a counseler at school. Keep in touch. __________________ Smiles are contagious. It's ok to pass them on. *